Archive for ‘Daily Marriage Tip’
If your child has a problem and wants your input, but you are caught off guard, try saying “Tell me more about that” or “What do you think you should do?” Responses like this can buy you time and clarify the situation. This works with spouses too.
Couples often have different internal clocks. Is one of you often ready to walk out of the house while the other decides to brush and floss? Be patient, and try matching each other’s pace.
Marriage Challenge: If you desire children but are not yet parents, tenderly support each other. Consider how your love may flow out to others needing your generosity.
Marriage Challenge: If you have children, the challenge is to negotiate child care responsibilities and still have the energy to be good, devoted spouses. Consider going on weekly dates.
“Greet one another with a holy kiss.” (2 Cor. 13:12) There are kisses and there are kisses. Some cultures greet even strangers with a kiss on both cheeks; some simply bow. The marital kiss is special. Pay attention to how you kiss each other today.
“We walk by faith, not by sight.” (2 Cor 5:7) How is your faith these days? St. Paul reminds us that at the heart of the Christian faith is trust, even when we can’t see the road ahead. Pray with your spouse for that kind of faith today.
“We are responsible for the process we use in parenting, not the outcome. Our children have free will and can choose their own paths, even destructive ones. We can guide, but we can’t control. Sometimes all we can do is pray.” (Susan Vogt)
Today, as we celebrate the Solemnity of the Sacred Heart of Jesus, draw close to Jesus’s Heart. Lay your head on Jesus’s chest, and give him your troubles. His Heart beats with love for you.
“Why” questions are fine for inquisitive minds but can be an obstacle during marital arguments. Why? It can sound accusatory. “Why did you do that?” “Why don’t you just…” Be careful of “Why” questions disguised as innocent queries.
Marriage Challenge, especially for newlyweds: Blending personalities, customs, family traditions, and financial decision making. Which has been easiest for you? For your spouse?
“There are different forms of service but the same Lord.” (1 Cor. 12:5) Equality doesn’t mean sameness. As men and women, we are equal, but have unique talents and personalities. How do your spouse’s gifts serve your family and the community?
Children are a great gift, and as desired as children usually are in a marriage, raising them can also bring stress. Don’t let arguments over child discipline sap your energy and alienate you from each other. Take a break. Build a list of a few reliable sitters.
“Take it; this is my body…This is my blood of the covenant.” (Mk 14:22, 24) Marriage finds its nourishment in the Eucharist, Jesus’s Body and Blood given to us. Take, eat; take, drink, and be strengthened!
We remember what we want to hear. Do you ever unintentionally but conveniently “forgot” something your spouse asked you to do? It’s easy to do, but try to be more attentive, even when inconvenient.
“A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” (Ecc. 4:12) Invite God into your marriage daily. Prayer can open up a third perspective when you’re not sure what to do.
Marriage is not so much a matter of finding the right person as being the right person. Relationship skills can be learned. Try to improve yours today.
“Do what’s natural” is a common and well, “natural,” approach to many decisions. Have you considered learning to use Natural Family Planning (NFP)? Click here for more information.
“Everything of mine is yours and everything of yours is mine.” (John 17:9) Although Jesus was addressing his Father with these words, they also apply to married couples. Are there any possessions that you are reluctant to share with your beloved?
What’s the difference between constructive criticism and nagging? Repetition. Unless your spouse is hard of hearing, trust that saying your criticism – with kindness – once (or at most twice) is enough.
“Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy Spirit.” (Mt 28:19) We are called to lead others to Christ. Reflect on how you and your family are living out this call. Be witnesses to the love of Christ.
Are you a detail person while your beloved sees the big picture – or vice-versa? These differences can complement each other for good, but if too extreme they can cause friction. Make a commitment to see the other’s point of view.
You think you’re right. Your spouse thinks the opposite. Neither of you wins by making the other wrong. Try giving the benefit of the doubt to your beloved. Try it their way – at least once.
(Reader’s Tip) When you get frustrated, pray for understanding.
Often the simple act of rebooting can remedy a computer problem. Sometimes marriages need a reboot. If a problem is not resolving readily, try this: Stop. Let both of you cool off. Forgive. Ask for a “do over.”
Using Natural Family Planning (NFP) helps couples develop an attitude of welcoming children. NFP can also be used to space or limit family size, but an open heart goes a long way.