Archive for ‘Daily Marriage Tip’
Explore what made your beloved the person he/she is. What traits did he get from his parents? Who was the most influential person in your spouse’s life during childhood? Ask. Share.
Make the extra effort. Husbands, it’s tempting to forego those dating niceties. Opening her door, pulling out her chair, walking on the curb side may seem old fashioned, but it’s a simple way to treat your wife like a queen.
Moses had his relatives; Jesus had the apostles; even the Lone Ranger had Tonto. Do you have a community of friends and relatives who can back you up, and support you in your marriage and parenting? Look for friends who share your values.
“I came so that they might have life and have it more abundantly,” says Jesus. (Jn 10:10) Mothers, grandmothers, godmothers, and spiritual mothers: how can you help those entrusted to your care experience abundant life?
A trip down memory lane: Recall the first full day of your marriage. Did you go on a honeymoon? Was it exhilarating or exhausting? Remember your first home together. What did you like best about it? Are you still in it? Reminisce together.
Are you and your spouse fit and healthy? Good. Some, however, know they should exercise or eat more nutritiously but procrastinate. Encourage each other. Exercise together or give the other time to do it in his/her own way. Don’t nag, just make it pleasant.
Playfulness brings joy to a marriage, but some of us are very serious people. If you’re not the naturally playful type you may have to fake it. Even if you stumble you can laugh together at your awkward attempts.
How do you stay close when one of you is away – on a business trip, deployed, off with the guys or gals? Consider calling or e-mailing daily. Skype a good night kiss. Pray for each other and let the other know when you did it. What do you do that helps?
“Let us love not in word or speech but in deed and truth.” (1Jn 3:18) Saying “I love you” is good. Being true to your words is better. Showing your love by doing something nice or sacrificing for your beloved is true love. What act of love can you do today?
“We measure every policy, every institution, and every action by whether it protects human life and enhances human dignity, especially for the poor and vulnerable.” (Sharing Catholic Social Teaching, 1998) How does the way you treat your spouse and children respect their dignity?
Stay with us,” they implored Jesus on the road to Emmaus. They sensed something special about him, something they needed. Married couples too need Jesus’ presence. Have you asked him lately, “Stay with us. Come into our home”? If not, try it today.
May 5-11 is “Screen-Free Week”. Ask your family if they are up to the challenge of non-screen based entertainment for a week? If you don’t want to go cold turkey, perhaps make a commitment to only watch shows the whole family can watch together.
May is traditionally a month dedicated to the Blessed Mother. Consider praying a rosary today, or even just a decade, and entrusting your spouse and family to Mary’s maternal care.
Today we celebrate St. Joseph the Worker. Jesus worked together with his foster father for many years. Working together with your children can teach them diligence and perseverance, in addition to a skill. It’s great bonding time, too. Try it.
Make the extra effort. Wives, it’s tempting to forego those dating niceties, but at times dress up for your honey (an attractive dress, heels, makeup). If you dress professionally for work, wear something beautiful on your date.
“A good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.” (Jn 10:11) In today’s world time is often our most precious commodity. It reflects your priorities. When you give time and attention to your beloved, it’s like laying down your life for the other. Save time for each other today.
Imagine you are absolutely broke. (Maybe you are.) What could you and your beloved do for a fun date? Walk? Bike? Read? Watch the stars? Play a game? Could this weekend be a time to experiment?
Today the Church rejoices in two new saints: Pope Saint John XXIII and Pope Saint John Paul II. Both lived recently enough that you may have memories of them. Talk with your spouse and children about what these two Popes mean to you.
You’ve heard of “Take your child to work day,” but what about “Take your spouse to work day”? Your spouse doesn’t need to take a day off work to join you, but does your beloved know enough about your work environment to understand your stresses? Does your spouse know your colleagues?
No matter how much better one spouse may be than the other at home decorating, it’s wise to let the artistically challenged one make a few of the decor decisions. After all, it’s your home together, and shared input is important.
Is your marriage going through a rocky spell? It’s tempting to blame it on a stressful job, the kids, or getting older. All of these things can stress a marriage, but not necessarily kill it. To find the underlying cause most couples need help. Don’t be afraid to ask for it.
Where did all the flowers and magic go? Infatuation may get a couple together but eventually fades and romance alone will not keep you together over the long haul. Common values, commitment to each other, and shared experiences are the glue.
Praying the Rosary together, as a family, is very beautiful and a source of great strength!” (Pope Francis) Do you pray the rosary as a family? Try it!
Reminder: Easter lasts for 50 days! (Lent was only 40.) A lesson that joy will have the last word. How can you and your spouse practice being joyful this Easter season?
Christ is risen! Celebrate new life today. Recall a hardship in your marriage that is now history. Rejoice that you’ve weathered it together. Remember this, and Jesus’ Resurrection, in future tough times.