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“Did not God choose those who are poor in the world to be rich in faith?” (James 2:5) Do you know anyone who is really poor? Look around you. What can you learn of faith from those you see?
Check yourself against these three criteria when criticizing your spouse (or anyone): Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? If not, it’s probably fault-finding or gossip. Focus on virtues more than vices.
(Reader’s Tip) You’ve got to give in (in disagreements). Both of you have to give in. Once it’s your turn and the next time it’s the other’s turn. (From a couple married 80 years)
“For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” (Mt 18:20) Did you gather in Jesus’ name today? Believe that Jesus is with you in your marriage, always.
An ache or a pain, an angst or an annoyance. What to do? Offer it up. This traditional spiritual practice of offering up our troubles as a prayer can redirect our energy from our own difficulties to the good of another. For whom can you offer up today’s problems?
Marriage often involves learning (or being told) when you are wrong. You can humbly accept this information when it is true or choose to pick a fight. Fight for your marriage. It’s better than proving you’re right.
(Reader’s Tip) My husband and I will occasionally surprise each other with coffee, candy or flowers. It’s a nice way to show we’re thinking of each other.
“Be doers of the word… Care for orphans and widows in their affliction.” (James 1:23,27) Do you know any orphans or widows in distress? If so, do something to help.
The best gift parents can give their children is a happy marriage. Nurturing your marriage will pay benefits for your child even if it costs money for a babysitter.
Do you show appreciation for the work your spouse does inside the home? Take a moment to say thank you for something he or she does on a regular basis, such as cooking, lawn care or laundry.
“Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.” (Mt 16:24) We never have to carry our crosses alone. Turn to Christ and allow your spouse to help you carry your cross as well.
(Reader’s Tip) Start and end each day by thanking God for letting this person be in your life. Just a quick smile when they walk in the room tells them you care that they are near you.
Parents, has your child disappointed you in some way? You need to hold him or her accountable, but that doesn’t mean you can’t welcome your child back with open arms. Can you think of any offense that is not forgivable? God can’t.
Technology and media are useful for connecting and inspiration but they can also rob you of precious couple time. A few seconds can easily morph into an hour. Evaluate your media use, individually and as a couple.
St. Monica prayed for years for the conversion of her son. His feast day is tomorrow: St. Augustine! Mothers and fathers, ask St. Monica to intercede for your child(ren).
Do sports or other recreational pursuits steal your attention away from your beloved? Independent interests are fine as long as your spouse doesn’t feel neglected. Not sure if it’s too much? Ask.
Not all infidelity is sexual. Does your work steal your attention away from your spouse? Do opposite sex colleagues at work seem more appealing because they seem to be on the same wavelength or flatter you? Pay attention to your vow and your spouse.
In today’s Gospel Peter professes of Christ, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.” (Mt 16:16) Do you proclaim Christ as your Savior in your daily life? In your marriage?
(Reader’s Tip) Take a moment each day to say how much you love your spouse. Thank them for what they do for the family, or just say that you miss them when you’re apart.
“Live not as foolish persons but as wise.” (Eph 5:15) Who is the wisest (not smartest) living person you know? What has he/she taught you about true wisdom?
Time Out Part 4: After taking a time out, come back together, now with calmer emotions. If another time out is needed, take it! But don’t avoid the issue indefinitely.
Time Out Part 3: Did you know that physiologically it takes 20 minutes to calm down after getting upset? Time outs give your spouse a chance to “re-set” and be their true, better self.
Time Out Part 2: Call a timeout on yourself when you feel yourself getting agitated. Take 20 minutes to do something calming: pray, breathe deeply, walk. Stepping away is an act of love.
Time Out Part 1: Ever shaken a can of soda and then opened it? Pretty messy! Emotions can be like that. Once riled up, we’re liable to say or do something “messy.” One solution: take a time out.
“But the woman came and did him homage, saying, ‘Lord, help me.’ (Mt 15:25) Have the humility to come to God when you are struggling with problems in your family and life.