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Some spouses need to bite their tongues more; others need to loosen their tongues and share more. Which are you? With time, hopefully you can find the middle ground that is “just right.”
“Your life is more than your work and your work is more than your job.” (From the song by the same name by Charlie King.) Is your ‘job’ getting in the way of your family relationships? Both are important, but as another song puts it, “Time is love.”
Marriage Challenge (esp. for older couples): health. Aches and pains are inevitable but remind yourself daily that you still have a spouse to love.
Marriage Challenge for older couples: Retirement, and the life changes that come with it. Humbly offer your life’s wisdom for the good of others; your experience is priceless.
“Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing.” (Albert Schweitzer) Is there a trait that you would like to foster in your spouse or child? How can you model that behavior this week in your own life?
“Daughter, your faith has saved you. Go in peace and be cured of your affliction.” (Mark 5:35) Are you or a loved one suffering from an illness? This can cause stress and sorrow. Remain faithful and the Lord will provide the strength and comfort you need.
Does your spouse accuse you of being irresponsible? Sometimes it might just be a different personality style, but don’t ignore the criticism. It may hurt, but not addressing any truth that might be behind the charge can build resentment.
Marriage Challenge: While you may have settled in to a comfortable lifestyle, routines can get boring. Try something new together this week – a new food, recreation, book…
Are you a perfectionist? It’s natural to want to do a good job but don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
St. John the Baptist leapt in his mother’s womb when he heard the voice of Mary. Today, rejoice to hear your spouse’s voice, and pray together to hear God’s voice.
Marriage Challenge: Balancing couple, parent, work, and personal time. Which one gets the least attention in your marriage? Fix it.
Marriage Challenge, especially for those with both kids and ailing parents: As part of the “sandwich generation” don’t be afraid to ask for help to meet the needs of both your kids and your parents.
“Why are you terrified? Do you not yet have faith?” (Mark 4:40) Do not doubt the Lord. Have faith. He will deliver you from danger and sorrow. You must simply trust in Him and have faith.
Tomorrow is Father’s Day. God bless all fathers! May they witness to God the Father’s love. And may men who desire fatherhood find ways to be fatherly to those in need around them.
If your child has a problem and wants your input, but you are caught off guard, try saying “Tell me more about that” or “What do you think you should do?” Responses like this can buy you time and clarify the situation. This works with spouses too.
Couples often have different internal clocks. Is one of you often ready to walk out of the house while the other decides to brush and floss? Be patient, and try matching each other’s pace.
Marriage Challenge: If you desire children but are not yet parents, tenderly support each other. Consider how your love may flow out to others needing your generosity.
Marriage Challenge: If you have children, the challenge is to negotiate child care responsibilities and still have the energy to be good, devoted spouses. Consider going on weekly dates.
“Greet one another with a holy kiss.” (2 Cor. 13:12) There are kisses and there are kisses. Some cultures greet even strangers with a kiss on both cheeks; some simply bow. The marital kiss is special. Pay attention to how you kiss each other today.
“We walk by faith, not by sight.” (2 Cor 5:7) How is your faith these days? St. Paul reminds us that at the heart of the Christian faith is trust, even when we can’t see the road ahead. Pray with your spouse for that kind of faith today.
“We are responsible for the process we use in parenting, not the outcome. Our children have free will and can choose their own paths, even destructive ones. We can guide, but we can’t control. Sometimes all we can do is pray.” (Susan Vogt)
Today, as we celebrate the Solemnity of the Sacred Heart of Jesus, draw close to Jesus’s Heart. Lay your head on Jesus’s chest, and give him your troubles. His Heart beats with love for you.
“Why” questions are fine for inquisitive minds but can be an obstacle during marital arguments. Why? It can sound accusatory. “Why did you do that?” “Why don’t you just…” Be careful of “Why” questions disguised as innocent queries.
Marriage Challenge, especially for newlyweds: Blending personalities, customs, family traditions, and financial decision making. Which has been easiest for you? For your spouse?
“There are different forms of service but the same Lord.” (1 Cor. 12:5) Equality doesn’t mean sameness. As men and women, we are equal, but have unique talents and personalities. How do your spouse’s gifts serve your family and the community?