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“Rising very early before dawn, he left and went off to a deserted place, where he prayed.” (Mk 1:35) Where and when is the best time for you to pray? In your room? In a chapel? Outside? In the morning? Before bed? Discuss with your spouse and encourage each other to pray daily.
Today is the start of National Marriage Week (Feb. 7-14). What is the best part about being married? Have you talked to your kids about the beauty of marriage?
Humor can lighten a stressful situation in life. Look for an opportunity today to lighten your beloved’s life with a touch of humor. Poke fun at yourself, or exaggerate a frustrating situation to the point of levity.
In marriage, arguments are seldom black and white, “I’m right and you’re wrong.” Look for the golden mean when you’re on opposite sides.
(Reader’s Tip) When you and your spouse have an argument, remember that the goal is not to “win.” The two of you are on the same team, fighting for your marriage, not one another.
“When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child…when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways.” (1 Cor 13:11) Reminisce about your respective childhoods. Name one childhood trait that serves you well and one childish trait that stresses your marriage.
Every person experiences a time when they understand the prophesy that Simeon said to Mary, “And a sword will pierce your own soul also.” (Luke 2:34) Do you know someone who needs consoling? Are you that person today?
“Love is a decision” is a maxim from the Marriage Encounter (ME) movement. As wonderful as marriage can be, it’s not always lived on an emotional high. Some days, we must just decide to love. The feelings will eventually follow.
St. John Bosco is the patron saint of young people. If you are raising adolescents and teens, ask this kindly saint for wisdom…and a healthy sense of humor!
(Reader’s Tip) Every night we ask each other forgiveness for the things we didn’t appreciate or for the things we did wrong or if we’ve offended each other.
“If one part [of the body] is honored, all the parts share its joy.” (1 Corinthians 12:26) What about your beloved’s physical appearance do you find especially attractive? Share that with him or her.
Perhaps your children are grown and it’s just the two of you again. Has your attention to each other grown stale or routine? Take up a new hobby, sport, or volunteer effort together.
Cook a special dinner together even if it’s an ordinary night. Recall a special meal you shared during your courtship.
The internet and social media can enrich our lives, but they can also threaten your marriage. It’s not only pornography or finding old flames on Facebook, but also the time taken from interaction with your beloved. Agree on mutual limits to screen time.
“Jesus said to them, ‘Come after me, and I will make you fishers of men.’” (Mk 1:17) Christ is continually calling us to follow him. To what is He calling you and your spouse to right now?
St. Francis de Sales’ spiritual classic, “Introduction to the Devout Life,” was written to encourage men and women to live holy lives in the midst of their daily occupations. Remember: you are called to holiness!
(Reader’s Tip) Every anniversary we write love letters to each other and take a “couple” picture. Put them together in a binder to treasure for years to come.
Today on the anniversary of Roe v. Wade, we remember the lives lost to abortion. The family is the “sanctuary of life.” Pray with your family for an end to abortion, and for those grieving a child lost to abortion.
The National Marriage Project identified 10 key factors linked to successfully combining marriage and parenthood. The last three are: the support of friends and family, a sound economic foundation, and quality family time. Which is your weakest?
(Reader’s Tip) I try once a day to write my wife a text or a note to tell her I love her. She does the same for me.
Couples separated by distance have blessings and challenges. Absence can make the heart grow fonder, but it can also cause loneliness and temptations. Plan ways to keep close even when you’re far away.
“How do you know me?” (John 1:48) While learning about the other person is generally associated with the dating period, continuing to ask and learn about your spouse is an essential part of marriage. Ask questions. Tell stories. Keep learning about your beloved.
After you are blessed with a child (or children), you may think you don’t have time or money for a regular date night. Do it anyway. Think of it as an investment in your marriage.
“There are different spiritual gifts but the same Spirit.” (1 Cor. 12) Which gift does your beloved have in a special way: wisdom, faith, the ability to heal, industriousness, intuition, decision making skills, communication? Affirm him or her.
The early years of marriage require adjustments and compromises. “My way is the right way” will only lock you into fights. Make sure it’s not always you or your spouse yielding to the will of the other.