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Think you know a lot about your faith? Don’t keep it to yourself. Consider teaching a religious education class. Ideally you could do this as a team. If that’s not possible, the support spouse can review the lesson plans and advise.
Have a “Remembering Night.” Remember the first time you saw each other, your first “date”, when you first realized he or she might be “the one”, and the night before your wedding. Share your feelings about each of these times.
“If [a grain of wheat] dies, it produces much fruit.” (Jn 12:24) Death is hard: the death of a loved one, the death of dreams, and the daily dying to self. But Jesus promises that when united with Him, even death and suffering can be fruitful. Find comfort in His words today.
“Let the one among you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone.” (John 8:7) One can’t be married without noticing the other’s faults. Knowing our own faults, however, can help us be more gentle toward our spouse.
Typically couples divide up work around the house according to time, skill, and interest. For a change of pace, try switching up jobs for a day. The work might not get done as efficiently, but you’ll learn a lot.
St. Joseph is the model for husbands and fathers. Men, pray to him today to be courageous, prayerful, and gentle leaders in your family.
So you’ve got a good marriage. Great! You’re not reading these tips because you’re in trouble but because you want to keep it strong. A good way to invest in the next generation of marriages is to volunteer to do marriage preparation with engaged couples.
St. Patrick is said to have used a shamrock as a symbol of the Trinity: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Your marriage, too, is an image of the Trinity! Your love shows God’s love to the world.
The spring wedding season is almost here. Do you know someone who’s getting married soon? Send a quick note or e-mail assuring them of your prayers.
We might have a lot of goals that we work towards during our lifetime. The ultimate reward that we strive for, however, is eternal life with Christ. Strive towards Heaven with your spouse.
“The Lord does not see as humans see.” (1 Samuel 16:7) As the saying goes, “Love is blind.” God and your beloved can see beauty beneath the surface. Beyond physical appearance, what invisible gifts do you see in your beloved?
What do you owe your kids? Toys? An allowance? A cell phone? No, these are extras to be granted, not entitlements. Love, time, food, clothing, shelter, and safety are the essentials: focus on these.
How long has it been since you had a real date with your beloved? This is the time of year when spirits lag. Christmas and Valentine’s Day have passed. The weather is gloomy. Plan a romantic pick-me-up.
When is self-care legitimate and when is it just selfish? Does your self-care interfere with the urgent need of your spouse or child? Does one of you claim to need it a lot more than the other? Talk about it.
Your domestic church—church of the home—is intimately connected to the larger Church. Just as you pray for family members, pray for church leaders.
Sometimes having a romantic evening together means doing less and eliminating something from your calendar. Do you really have to watch that TV show, wash the curtains, or attend that meeting? Prioritize your spouse.
“Honor your father and your mother.” (Ex 20:12) For those with good relationships with their parents, this commandment can be easy to follow. For others, this can be difficult. Pray today for your parents, and ask God for reconciliation where needed.
St. Perpetua and St. Felicity were wives and mothers martyred for their faith. Married women, if your faith feels weak, ask these heavenly models for help.
A pediatrician asked a new mom when she and her husband were going to have a date that week. The doctor said, “I’m serious. Unless you agree to have a weekly date, you can find another pediatrician. Your child is more likely to thrive if your marriage is strong.”
Have you prayed together during Lent (not just grace before meals)? Try saying a prayer together before bedtime, or share your reflections on a short passage of Scripture.
In conversation, what’s the difference between being quiet and listening? Listening takes effort to really understand your beloved. Being quiet may just mean you’re waiting for a pause to get your own thoughts in.
Happily married couples often say they married their best friend. What are the qualities of friendship that you value? Loyalty? Sense of humor? Similar interests? A pleasing personality? Thank your spouse for being a good friend.
Have you ever tried a “tech fast”? For one day resolve not to use any technology – no TV, computer, cell phone, iPod, etc. Use the time you save to pray and to be present to your family.
“This is my beloved Son. Listen to him.” (Mk 9:7) We do not always want to listen to what we are told. Listen carefully to others, especially your spouse – Christ might be speaking to you through their words!
How are you doing with your Lenten resolutions? Keeping them can be easier if you and your spouse hold each other accountable.