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(Reader’s Tip) Spend time together talking, listening, praying, laughing, being playful and reconnecting. Make that time for each other.
Have a home date tonight or this weekend. If you have kids, put them to bed early. Dinner can be simple but might include candlelight, soft music, wine or chocolate. After dinner, light more candles, look through your wedding album, play, and reminisce.
Is all this coming and going, scrimping and saving, cooking and cleaning, arguing and compromising worth it? The balancing act you refine now, with God’s grace, will give you wisdom for future challenges. Look at it as training and rely on the Lord, entrusting your efforts to Him.
(Reader’s Tip) Always think loving thoughts. Never let the devil creep in with negative talk.
“Beloved, we are God’s children now.” (1 Jn 3:2) Young or old, we are always God’s children, His beloved sons and daughters. Because He loved us first, we can love others. Ask Him today for the grace to love your spouse and children.
Some arguments just aren’t worth fighting. If you and your beloved have an ongoing disagreement, consider whether it’s time to forgive and let this one go.
As you and your spouse improve your conflict resolution skills, it sets the tone for the next generation. If you have children, don’t hide your minor conflicts from them. Let them see that you can disagree, work it out, and then reconcile.
(Especially for empty nesters) Where did the time go? It seems like just yesterday that…(Fill in the blank.) Your children may be adults, but you can still worry. Take the worry to God in prayer.
(Especially for parents of teens) You’re seldom right (in your teenager’s eyes). Stay tight with your spouse because you need each other to discern when to be flexible and when to hang tough. Remind each other you’re not crazy.
(Especially for newlyweds) The early years are usually full of adjustments and new traditions. Are there any customs from your families of origin (such as how you celebrate holidays or how you vacation) that you need to discuss, and find compromises?
With so many responsibilities – caring for your family, work, tending to the house, etc. – there are many things to worry and stress about. Entrust them to God and find peace; He will deliver you.
(Reader’s Tip) Wake up each morning vowing to make the decision to love your spouse no matter what. When you feel anger or negativity, look at your spouse and remember your decision to love.
Sometimes married couples feel they have to fish for compliments or for those magic words, “I love you.” Can you be the first to say them to your beloved today? If you missed being first, try being the last.
How can you support your spouse or child if they want to change a bad habit? Say or write the goal out loud as a start. Join them in the process. Help them set a reward and consequence. Don’t rescue, but be there to comfort if they don’t succeed – yet!
(Reader’s Tip) It’s important to remember your priorities in your marriage. Never sweat the small things that may get on your nerves about your spouse.
Remember your first real date? Can you recreate it in some way this week – go to the same place? Watch the same movie? At the least, reminisce together.
True love goes much deeper than physical attraction, but there is also a physical dimension to feeling loved. Share what you find especially attractive about your beloved’s appearance.
The peace Jesus promises us often comes through forgiving your spouse when he or she hurts you. Is there something you’re finding hard to forgive? Take it to Jesus in prayer, and ask for His peace.
Is there an older married couple whom you admire? What one or two things have you learned from them?
Are you a “Doubting Thomas?” Sometimes we doubt our beloved’s good intentions; sometimes we doubt our ability to live up to our commitments. Trust takes time, forgiveness and trying again.
Politeness and good manners are not just for adults and job interviews. Teach your children basic courtesy, greetings, and not to interrupt. It can make everyone’s life at home more peaceful. Model it with your spouse.
Chivalry and the art of politeness may seem out of vogue these days. A little romantic courtliness, however, can counter taking each other for granted. Just for fun, see who can “out-polite” the other.
Dating your spouse is crucial to a happy marriage. Gerald and Michelle, founders of Date to Door, explain why dating is so important and give advice for how to do it.
Many married couples’ lives are hectic. Take a rest break today. Yes, you may have responsibilities, but if you can’t find time to rest today, commit to doing it some day this week. Rest in each other’s arms for a moment, or an hour.
The written word often carries more weight than talking, perhaps because it takes more effort and there is a record of the words. Why not write a love poem or limerick for your beloved? Not a writer? Search the Internet for a poem that reflects your feelings.