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“Where you invest your love, you invest your life.” (Marcus Mumford) Is your love invested in the most important parts of your life – God, your spouse, your children? Take a moment to evaluate.
Marriage is not just about sharing a physical life together, but calling each other on to holiness. It is not always easy to keep Christ at the center of your marriage, so pray for the grace to help your spouse to heaven.
“And you yourself a sword will pierce,” the prophet Simeon says to Mary (Lk 2:35). Are you or your spouse carrying a heavy burden, a painful ache in your heart? Pray to Mary for help in bearing your suffering well. She knows our pain.
What is your ethnic heritage? Is it similar to or different from that of your spouse? February is Black History Month. No matter what your race, it’s interesting to learn about your ethnic heritage.
Sometimes spouses have different conversation goals. Be aware of your styles of communication as well as the direction of your conversation – whether you want to vent, bring clarity to a problem, or get a new viewpoint on a tough situation.
“Taking time to rest is not a waste of time.” (Susan Vogt) Give yourself a break today or tomorrow – from kids, a chore, worries. It doesn’t have to be long to refresh. Take your cue from God, our Creator, who rested on the seventh day.
In today’s Gospel, Jesus preaches the Beatitudes, some of the best-known verses of the New Testament. Jesus’ words are a call to faith and humility in the spiritual life. Which one of the Beatitudes do you need to cultivate more in your own life? Discuss with your spouse and make a concrete decision to wholeheartedly […]
Do your kids drain you of so much energy that you just want to stay home and veg out on a Saturday night? Consider sharing kids! Offer to take another couple’s child(ren) one night to give them a break. Then trade the favor the next week. Or if you don’t have kids, give your friends […]
“Marriage is a lifelong partnership of the whole of life.” (USCCB, Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan) Partnership here means sharing in life together, helping each other, journeying together toward heaven. Does that describe your marriage?
Did you have a dream last night? Recently? If you seldom remember your dreams, make an attempt to remember tonight’s dream. You may be surprised. Share your scariest dream with your spouse.
Today we celebrate the conversion of St. Paul. Conversion is an ongoing process for all of us. Talk with your beloved today about “conversion moments” you’ve experienced – big or small.
There are people in our midst who quietly go about doing thankless jobs like cleaning the toilet, changing sheets, stocking grocery shelves, picking up other people’s garbage, or working in a fast food restaurant. Thank someone for making your life easier. Maybe it’s your spouse.
Jesus often reminds his disciples not to be afraid: “Take heart, it is I; do not be afraid.” (Mt 14: 27) We are human, however, and we still have fears. What are you afraid of? Share your fears with your beloved, and encourage each other.
“I urge you, brothers and sisters…that there be no divisions among you.” (1 Cor 1:10) Husbands and wives united in love are a great gift to the world! Consider those things that divide you and your spouse: old grudges or disagreements. Ask the Holy Spirit for the gift of unity.
Tomorrow is the anniversary of Roe v. Wade. St. John Paul II said, “Marriage is the sanctuary of life.” We grieve the loss of so many lives to abortion. Do something pro-life today: pray together for the protection of human life or visit a sick, elderly, or disabled person. Little actions of kindness build a […]
Today is Inauguration Day. Let us pray that our new president will be guided by truth and justice as he leads our country for the next four years, especially in matters of human dignity, marriage, and family life.
Winning an argument is not about proving you’re right. It’s not YOUR problem or MY problem. It’s OUR problem. Sometimes the marriage can win if you lose.
You may not think about your decision to marry as a call from God, but rather as an intense attraction to your beloved. Hmm, isn’t that what compelled the apostles to follow Jesus?
“Where you put your time, you put your life.” (Clayton Barbeau) What are your deepest values? Does the way you spend your time reflect these? If not, why not? Take charge.
Do you have a dream for your life together? You may not express it like Martin Luther King did, but having a dream gives direction to your life. Tell each other your dreams.
“Here I am, Lord; I come to do your will.” (Ps 40:8a, 9a) When’s the last time you and your spouse have prayed together to know God’s will for your family? Spend time today asking the Lord what more he has to teach you. Pray to be always ready to do His will.
Parenting can be a joy but can also put stress on a marriage. Parenting young children can be physically demanding, and parenting teens might be emotionally draining. Take time today to reconnect with your spouse.
“Then they abandoned their nets and followed [Jesus].” (Mk 1:18) The apostles were ready to leave their work to follow Jesus. Work is necessary to pay bills and raise kids, but sometimes our job can steal time needed for our vocation – marriage. Ask your spouse if your work is in balance.
Does your job rob you of couple time? Are you “married” to your job? For those whose work is in the home (both paid and unpaid), consider the same questions. Does taking care of your children or your volunteer work consume so much time that no energy or time is left for your beloved? Readjust.
Even if it’s not your cup of tea, sometimes it’s worth doing something with your honey, just because it pleases the other person. For example, watch her favorite movie or his favorite sport, try dancing together, take a lesson…