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“We are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses” (Heb 12:1). On All Saint’s Day, ask a married saint to help you live your vocation well. Suggestions: St. Gianna Molla, St. Thomas More, or St. Rita of Cascia.
Halloween is a time when adults and kids get to play and pretend. If you could be any famous couple in history, who would it be? Why?
“Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades. But to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that’s a real treat.” (Joanne Woodward) Think of a way to help your honey laugh today.
Nagging is hard on a marriage. Try patience and gentleness on the one hand, attentiveness and follow-through on the other.
Spouses needn’t know where each other is every hour of the day, but it’s nice to know each other’s daily routines. Pick a common time during the day to pause and hold each other in prayer for 10 seconds.
(Reader’s Tip) You do not have to like your spouse 100% of the time, but love them with all your heart.
“You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.” (Mt 22:37) God is (and must be) at the center of each marriage. You can love and serve Him through your love and service to your spouse. How are you keeping God at the center […]
“Whoever wishes to be great among you must be your servant.” (Mk 10:43) Just for fun see which of you can serve the other more today. Make a game out of it if you wish. “No, let me get the door, the snack, make dinner, etc.” “No, honey, you must let me do it.”
“Son, why have you done this to us? Your father and I have been looking for you with great anxiety.” (Luke 2:48) Have you ever lost a child physically or emotionally (to mental illness, drugs, poor decisions)? Go to Mary. She understands.
(Reader’s Tip) See your spouse as the most precious gift you will ever receive. Do not underestimate God’s ability to send you the spouse who will help you grow spiritually and personally.
St. John Paul II left a legacy of teaching on marriage and family. Try reading parts of his “Letter to Families” today.
Have you held hands or hugged your spouse today? Little acts of loving touch boost endorphins and build mental bonds. Win-win!
Do marriage enrichment programs work? Aren’t those just for couples with troubles? Yes and No. Research shows that couples who attend marriage enrichment programs (even if they go reluctantly) report more marital happiness.
“Then repay to Caesar what belongs to Caesar and to God what belongs to God.” (Mt 22:21) It is easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life but you must not forget to devote time to God, both on your own and with your spouse.
St. Luke is the patron of doctors. Nursing a sick or dying family member is an act of love; but can be difficult. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help or take a break.
(Reader’s Tip) Find a task or chore that is your spouse’s least favorite thing to do (taking out the trash, doing the dishes) and do it for them as often as you can.
“The spirit of wisdom came to me.” (Wisdom 7:7) What’s the wisest thing your beloved has ever said or done (besides marrying you)? Tell him or her. What’s the most foolish thing you’ve ever done? Forgive yourself.
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” (Father Theodore Hesburgh) Don’t get so busy caring for your child that you forget the love that brought that child into being.
(Reader’s Tip) Love in marriage is a responsibility to God. If that is understood all else can be resolved.
Have any divorced friends? Many of us do. Divorce and separation are difficult, lonely experiences. Pray for your friends, and offer tangible help, like childcare.
“Go out, therefore, into the main roads and invite to the feast whomever you find.” (Mt 22:9) Consider helping other couples as they prepare for the sacrament of marriage. Bringing others to Christ in their marriage will help to bring your marriage to Christ as well!
Empty nest marriages can be an opportunity to discover new adventures together. You don’t have to have all the same interests but search for something new to do together.
Respecting human life means investing in children and nurturing their lives from conception until adulthood. Do you and your spouse support your friends’ children as well as your own children?
(Reader’s Tip) Always treat each other with respect, whether it’s in front of the children, in public or just the two of you.
“God made them male and female.” (Mk 10:6) Take time today to appreciate each other’s differences as a man or a woman and thank God for your spouse’s strengths.