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(Reader’s Tip) Say “thank you,” especially for the little things. It lets your spouse know you noticed and appreciated what they did, no matter how little the task.
When you are not able to be sexually intimate (illness, fatigue, wrong time of the month, separation, not in the mood…), how do you still express love to your spouse? Find a creative way to express your love today.
Are there circumstances in your life that are inhibiting your relationship with your beloved? These could be serious like addictions or simple like focusing more on your phone then your spouse. Recognize what stands between you and your spouse and “throw them away.”
St. Joachim and St. Anne carried the cross of infertility for many years before they were blessed to become the parents of our Blessed Mother. Pray today for married couples still waiting for the blessing of children.
“My husband, Frank, and I have learned that our sexual union should be focused on giving rather than getting. NFP provided the environment to live this out.” – Jennifer, from Signs of Grace.
“NFP grew our relationship with each other and with God in ways we never expected.” – Tom, from Be Her Joseph.
“In studying NFP in the context of the Theology of the Body, both of us have become more open to each other, to God, and to children.” – Michael and Alysha, from NFP Couples’ Stories.
“In our experience with Natural Family Planning, I can tell you that I feel so respected and well cared-for by my husband in a big way.” – Sarah, from My Husband the Gentleman.
This week is Natural Family Planning Awareness Week. Not sure what NFP is? Already a pro? Either way, check out the NFP resources on the USCCB website and on For Your Marriage.
“The Spirit too comes to the aid of our weakness.” (Rom 8:26) When a difficult decision looms, ask the Holy Spirit for guidance. It can be as simple as praying, “Come, Holy Spirit!”
Doing things together is good but, depending on your personality, some spouses can feel smothered. Do you have enough alone time or personal hobbies to refresh your spirit and bring a renewed you and new ideas to your marriage?
Do you and your spouse want to connect when you’re apart? Set your phone/watch/computer to ring at an agreed upon time. Then, even though separated, you both pause for a moment, picture your spouse, and pray for each other.
When your honey is gone for more than a day, how do you stay connected? A nightly phone call? Skype? Email? A treat snuck into the luggage? Praying for each other?
(Reader’s Tip) Marriage is until death do us part, not until we have a disagreement. Keep this in mind when you hit rough spots and work through them prayerfully and together.
“Jesus…began to send them out two by two.” (Mk. 6:7) We are stronger together, in bonds of friendship and community.. You too, are sent to your neighbors, your town, your relatives, and the world to heal, to love, to forgive.
Teach your child (or a neighbor’s child) a value this weekend but do it without saying a word. Consider faithfulness to a promise, self-control, goodness, gentleness, modesty, chastity. Which of these fruits of the Holy Spirit is the biggest challenge for you?
“But some seed fell on rich soil, and produced fruit, a hundred or sixty or thirtyfold.” (Mt 13:8) Is your marriage rich soil in which your family can flourish? If you want to do something for your children, do something for your marriage. Children benefit from a strong, loving marriage.
(Reader’s Tip) “My husband leads me to seek God and I lead him to see God in our family.” Recognize the ways in which your spouse is leading you to see God, and thank them.
Have you developed any parting or reconnecting habits that confirm your love? A goodbye kiss or welcome home hug is a great start. Save the first five minutes of reconnecting to check in with your spouse.
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder” BUT “out of sight, out of mind.” Which adage resonates with you more? Do you need to make any adjustments to balance your alone vs. together time?
Your family is a community. This means that when one person changes a behavior – for good or for ill – it impacts everyone. If you smile, do a favor, give a compliment, it lifts everyone’s spirit. If you complain or nag, it pulls your beloved down too.
(Reader’s Tip) In each challenging situation I strive to remember that this man is God’s amazing gift to me, and that God trusts me to love him with the same love God has for us.
“For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Cor 12:10) Sometimes spouses can be a thorn in each other’s side. Annoying as this can be, it can also be a path to self-correction and humility. Name your own weaknesses and strengths.
“I give praise to you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, for although you have hidden these things from the wise and the learned you have revealed them to the childlike.” (Mt 11:25) We are called to praise God in all that we do, but that can be hard in our busy lives. Reflect on […]
What’s one admittedly minor thing you want to change about your beloved? No matter how annoying it was, can you let it go? Give your spouse the gift of accepting him or her, quirks included.