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Lift high the Cross! Do you have a crucifix in a prominent place in your home? Seeing Jesus’ sacrifice is a great reminder of the love spouses are called to every day.
“You are thinking not as God does, but as human beings do.” (Mk 8:33) We are not always capable of understanding the way in which God works. But we must always trust and remain faithful to Him, despite our lack of understanding. He will not lead us astray.
Christ died for us. Spouses give their lives daily for each other, and parents for their children. Your sacrifices are worthwhile!
Does your beloved need to hear words of love or apology from you? Don’t put it off – do it today.
Over the years spouses learn little tricks to make life together work more smoothly. Are there any adjustments you’ve decided to make to accommodate your beloved’s idiosyncrasies, like timing, temperature, eating, or sleeping preferences?
What’s your shopping personality? – In and out as quickly as possible; shopping as recreation; never met a bargain I didn’t like; a research project? If you have different shopping styles, how do you reconcile your differences?
Happy birthday, Mary! Honor Our Lady in your home today: pray the Rosary together, sing a Marian hymn, or read a book together about Mary.
“All work and no play make Jack a dull boy”. On this Labor Day, use a labor-saving device (washer, microwave, car, blender, etc.) to save some time and do something playful with your honey.
“He has done all things well. He makes the deaf hear and [the] mute speak.” (Mk 7:37) Christ works great wonders every day. Share with your spouse the wonders that Christ has worked for you today.
If one of you is sad, sick, or depressed, how can you tell? What do you usually do to comfort each other? Does talking about it help? Or would you rather have time alone? What does your beloved want you to do? Ask.
Unemployment can put stress on a marriage – and it’s not just about the money. Questions arise like: what value am I to my family or our society? If your spouse is job hunting or underemployed be gentle and be present for him/her. Pray for those who need work.
How do you feel about parties? Some people love to host them while others prefer going to them. Still others would rather stay home and cocoon. If you don’t have the same socializing style, what compromises have you worked out?
“It is easier to build a child than to repair an adult.” (Marilyn Krock) In other words, it is worth the effort to invest time and love into your children. Slow down, be with them, and enjoy the moments together. Work can wait.
What’s your favorite food? What’s your spouse’s favorite food? Did you guess right? How soon can you make or buy the favorite for your sweetie?
Psychologically, negative messages are more powerful than positive ones. If you’ve been hard on yourself lately, list three things you did well today. It’ll make you a more pleasant person for your spouse to be around.
“This people honors me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me; In vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines human precepts.” (Mk 7:6-7) Preach the Gospel, but also live the Gospel. Your children need to see both sides in order to understand.
St. John the Baptist was a martyr for marriage (see Matt 14:3-12). May we have the courage to defend – and live – the true meaning of marriage!
Suggested prayer for your family today: “My God, let me know and love you, so that I may find my happiness.” (attributed to St. Augustine)
Mothers with challenging children, don’t lose hope! Ask St. Monica for help. She prayed and wept for years over her son, St. Augustine.
Want to pray more, but not sure how? Try taping a list of people you want to pray for to the bathroom mirror, or a place you will see it every day. Make sure your spouse is #1.
“We must have places where children can have a whole group of adults they can trust.” (Margaret Mead) Does your family have such a community? If you don’t have children yourselves, can you be that supportive community for your neighborhood?
Consider living beneath your means. Many people in the world don’t have a choice. Even it you are still collecting necessities for your household, is there one thing that you can give away this week? You’ll be richer for it.
“Then many of his disciples who were listening said, “This saying is hard; who can accept it?” (John 6:60) Living out the Gospel is not always easy, but with God’s grace it is possible.
The “Salve Regina” hymn – which honors Mary as Queen – is a beautiful prayer for the family to pray together. Even in the “valley of tears,” God is with us.
“You carry out the mission of the church of the home in ordinary ways when…you pray together…God answers all prayers, but sometimes in surprising ways.” (Follow the Way of Love, USCCB) Looking back on the past year, can you identify a prayer that has been answered?