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When your honey is gone for more than a day, how do you stay connected? A nightly phone call? Skype? Email? A treat snuck into the luggage? Praying for each other?
(Reader’s Tip) Marriage is until death do us part, not until we have a disagreement. Keep this in mind when you hit rough spots and work through them prayerfully and together.
“Jesus…began to send them out two by two.” (Mk. 6:7) We are stronger together, in bonds of friendship and community.. You too, are sent to your neighbors, your town, your relatives, and the world to heal, to love, to forgive.
Teach your child (or a neighbor’s child) a value this weekend but do it without saying a word. Consider faithfulness to a promise, self-control, goodness, gentleness, modesty, chastity. Which of these fruits of the Holy Spirit is the biggest challenge for you?
“But some seed fell on rich soil, and produced fruit, a hundred or sixty or thirtyfold.” (Mt 13:8) Is your marriage rich soil in which your family can flourish? If you want to do something for your children, do something for your marriage. Children benefit from a strong, loving marriage.
(Reader’s Tip) “My husband leads me to seek God and I lead him to see God in our family.” Recognize the ways in which your spouse is leading you to see God, and thank them.
Have you developed any parting or reconnecting habits that confirm your love? A goodbye kiss or welcome home hug is a great start. Save the first five minutes of reconnecting to check in with your spouse.
“Absence makes the heart grow fonder” BUT “out of sight, out of mind.” Which adage resonates with you more? Do you need to make any adjustments to balance your alone vs. together time?
Your family is a community. This means that when one person changes a behavior – for good or for ill – it impacts everyone. If you smile, do a favor, give a compliment, it lifts everyone’s spirit. If you complain or nag, it pulls your beloved down too.
(Reader’s Tip) In each challenging situation I strive to remember that this man is God’s amazing gift to me, and that God trusts me to love him with the same love God has for us.
“For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Cor 12:10) Sometimes spouses can be a thorn in each other’s side. Annoying as this can be, it can also be a path to self-correction and humility. Name your own weaknesses and strengths.
“I give praise to you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, for although you have hidden these things from the wise and the learned you have revealed them to the childlike.” (Mt 11:25) We are called to praise God in all that we do, but that can be hard in our busy lives. Reflect on […]
What’s one admittedly minor thing you want to change about your beloved? No matter how annoying it was, can you let it go? Give your spouse the gift of accepting him or her, quirks included.
How much independence is good in a marriage? Certainly husband and wife should not depend on the other for their identity or self worth, BUT interdependence is better. What do you depend on your spouse to do around your home?
“(A)s a matter of equality your surplus at the present time should supply their needs.” (2 Cor 8:13-14) Considering your resources, find someone who has less today. Give them some of your surplus – money, time, or talent.
Want to change your spouse? Change yourself. You might like to make your beloved perfect (in your eyes), but you’ll have more success changing a weakness in yourself. One person’s change sometimes prompts another’s.
Bl. Junipero Serra is the patron of vocations to the priesthood and religious life. Pray today that your children and godchildren will discern and accept God’s will for their lives.
Husband and wife are meant to lead each other to heaven. What have you done today to enrich your spouse’s spiritual life?
“But who do you say that I am?” (Mt 16:15) Jesus’ question to Peter is also directed at us. Faith in Jesus, the Son of the living God, is at the heart of discipleship. Pray together for that faith today.
Pope Francis says that “I’m sorry” is a phrase husbands and wives should say often. If it’s hard for you to say “I’m sorry,” or to offer forgiveness, pray for a softened heart.
“Rejoice to the extent that you share in the sufferings of Christ.” (1 Pt 4:13) Jesus’ Sacred Heart loves the world enough to suffer for it. Unite your sufferings to those of Christ today.
Gratitude dispels anger. If you are angry at your spouse, think of the times when he/she did something loving for you.
Be intentional about giving your spouse your undivided attention when you see each other after your respective daily duties.
John the Baptist leapt in the womb when Mary greeted his mother, Elizabeth. What a joyful scene! Pray for couples expecting children today, and for those who await this blessing.
Start the day with a hug. It gives you a positive mentality.