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In the midst of an argument, reach out to your spouse. Physical touch can’t fix everything, but it can alleviate tension.
“[Jesus] said to them again, ‘Peace be with you. As the Father has sent me, so I send you.’ And when he had said this, he breathed on them and said to them, ‘Receive the holy Spirit’” (Jn 20:21-22). Today is the Feast of Pentecost, when the Holy Spirit came and flooded the early Church […]
Go for a morning walk with your spouse, and enjoy the quiet time together. You can even make it a date by walking to a donut shop or other tasty destination.
Intentionality applies to word choice as well. When you are talking to your spouse, make sure your tone and language reflect love. Avoid accusatory or defensive language and use unique language that lets your spouse know s/he is special.
Intentionality goes a long way. Think about your spouse when you make decisions, even if they are small ones, like when to fill up the gas tank or what channel to watch, or big ones, such as plans with friends or vacation spots.
After work today, do one of your spouse’s chores before you settle down to relax; make sure their comfort and relaxation is ranked as highly as your own.
Spring and summer are great times to start new hobbies. Talk with your spouse about your interests and pick a new hobby to do together.
Negative thoughts and comments fuel themselves. Break the cycle by focusing on things you appreciate.
“Lifting his eyes to heaven, Jesus prayed saying, ‘Father, they are your gift to me’” (Jn 17:24). Jesus viewed his disciples as gifts from the Father. Do you see your spouse as a gift from your heavenly Father? Take today to thank God for each other.
Make boring chores fun by doing them with your spouse and turning on your favorite music, or make it a race to finish first!
Make today a lunch date! If you can’t meet during your lunch breaks, consider ordering out for your spouse.
Balancing preferences in marriage can be tough. Never speaking your preference might cause resentment in you, but never yielding can hurt your spouse. Check in with your spouse to make sure each of you feels heard.
May is the month of Our Lady. Make this month an opportunity to increase your family’s devotion to her – pray a Hail Mary or a decade of the Rosary together each day.
Plan a “field trip” for the family! It can be educational, or take advantage of the early spring deals to theme parks and other fun places.
Find a daily Mass that fits both of your work schedules and make going together a priority one day this week. It’s a great way to start the day or begin the evening!
“Jesus said to his disciples: ‘Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you’” (Jn 14:27) Is there peace in your household? Reflect on today’s Gospel with your family. Share reactions to the promise of peace Jesus gives.
Have you washed the car recently? Make the task a bonding moment, and don’t be afraid of getting messy!
St. Catherine of Siena boldly proclaimed her love for Christ. How can you courageously accept your call of discipleship?
When you feel negative about something your spouse says, try to look at the statement from a different perspective (especially his/hers) before responding.
Thank your spouse for something s/he does for you, especially on a daily basis. A text mid-day or a welcome home “thank you” goes a long way.
Love needs care and cultivation; it can’t grow on its own. Talk with your spouse about areas where your love needs some growth.
Schedule a lunch break call with your spouse this week if possible. Don’t talk logistics, just check in about how each of you are doing.
“The former heaven and the former earth had passed away and the sea was no more” (Rev 21:1). If all earthly matters are pushed aside, what does your marriage look like? Talk with your spouse about it.
Make spring cleaning fun! Set aside the day in advance and end the night with a favorite movie or dessert. Make sure to plan a special lunch to keep the helpers engaged!
What helps you calm down when you are upset? Are there “trigger” words that cause situations to escalate? Identify these and work with your spouse to adjust your conversations accordingly.