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When is self-care legitimate and when is it just selfish? Does your self-care interfere with the urgent need of your spouse or child? Does one of you claim to need it a lot more than the other? Talk about it.
Your domestic church—church of the home—is intimately connected to the larger Church. Just as you pray for family members, pray for church leaders.
Sometimes having a romantic evening together means doing less and eliminating something from your calendar. Do you really have to watch that TV show, wash the curtains, or attend that meeting? Prioritize your spouse.
“Honor your father and your mother.” (Ex 20:12) For those with good relationships with their parents, this commandment can be easy to follow. For others, this can be difficult. Pray today for your parents, and ask God for reconciliation where needed.
St. Perpetua and St. Felicity were wives and mothers martyred for their faith. Married women, if your faith feels weak, ask these heavenly models for help.
A pediatrician asked a new mom when she and her husband were going to have a date that week. The doctor said, “I’m serious. Unless you agree to have a weekly date, you can find another pediatrician. Your child is more likely to thrive if your marriage is strong.”
Have you prayed together during Lent (not just grace before meals)? Try saying a prayer together before bedtime, or share your reflections on a short passage of Scripture.
In conversation, what’s the difference between being quiet and listening? Listening takes effort to really understand your beloved. Being quiet may just mean you’re waiting for a pause to get your own thoughts in.
Happily married couples often say they married their best friend. What are the qualities of friendship that you value? Loyalty? Sense of humor? Similar interests? A pleasing personality? Thank your spouse for being a good friend.
Have you ever tried a “tech fast”? For one day resolve not to use any technology – no TV, computer, cell phone, iPod, etc. Use the time you save to pray and to be present to your family.
“This is my beloved Son. Listen to him.” (Mk 9:7) We do not always want to listen to what we are told. Listen carefully to others, especially your spouse – Christ might be speaking to you through their words!
How are you doing with your Lenten resolutions? Keeping them can be easier if you and your spouse hold each other accountable.
If one must choose the hardest stage of parenthood, it might be the teen years. They’re too big to carry to their room but too young to always make good decisions. Assure your teen that you will always love them – no matter what.
Perhaps you’ve avoided the flu so far. Sooner or later, however, one of you will feel under the weather. How does your beloved like to be cared for? Lots of attention or “Just leave me alone, honey.” Give what he/she needs, not what you would have liked.
“We make ourselves rich by making our wants few.” (Henry David Thoreau) Do you consider yourself richer or poorer than average? During this Lent, is there a want that you can let go of?
Did you resolve to pray more during Lent? End each evening by praying together, thanking God for your spouse and the blessings of the day.
One way to sacrifice in Lent is to take stock of what you have but do not need. What can you give up so that others may benefit? Start with your own closet and see if it catches on in your family.
“He remained in the desert for forty days, tempted by Satan.” (Mk 1:13) There are many temptations that surround us daily. When faced with an evil temptation, turn to God and He will lead. Encourage your spouse to also avoid temptation.
The devil tempted Jesus with food, power, glory, and safety. (Lk 4:1-13) What is the greatest temptation to your marriage? Overwork? Inattentiveness? Sports? Technology? Worry about finances, the kids, security? Face it together.
During Lent, Christians reflect on Jesus’s 40 days in the desert. Deserts are lonely places where we have to face ourselves, flaws and all. Give each other some quiet personal time to ponder this mystery today.
Lent is a time to take stock of our lives. It’s a great time to go to confession. Schedule a time for confession on your calendar – today. Even better, try to go together with your spouse and children.
Today we begin the penitential season of Lent. As you reflect on what personal penitential practice you might take on during Lent, also consider if there is something that you’d like to do as a team. Pray together, fast from sweets, no complaining…
Today is Mardi Gras – the feast before the fast. There are times of feasting and fasting in marriage also. What’s your favorite way to celebrate good times in your marriage? Can you surprise your honey with a treat today?
Who is your favorite President and why? Discuss with each other what heroic quality caused you to make your choice. How is your beloved heroic?
“A leper came to him…and said, “If you wish, you can make me clean.” (Mk 1:40) Have you allowed God to clean you, and to heal your wounds? Be not afraid to come before Him.