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What’s your spouse’s favorite treat? See if you guessed right. Now you’ve got an idea for a little way to show love; it’s just a matter of when you surprise your beloved with it.
“Go first and be reconciled with your brother, and then come and offer your gift,” Jesus says to his disciples (Mt 5:24). Is there anyone you need to reconcile with? Perhaps your spouse? A child? A parent or parent-in-law? Pray for opportunities to heal a broken or tense relationship.
As Valentine’s Day approaches, give your spouse a gift of memory. If you haven’t already, memorize your wedding vows. Few people like to memorize but it’s a way to keep your vows always in mind.
An easy way to deepen your marriage today: Find one interesting tidbit (article, blog entry, exercise…) on www.ForYourMarriage.org and share it with your spouse.
Renew your vows today or on Valentine’s Day. “I _____ take you _____ to be my wife/husband. I promise to be faithful to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love you and to honor you all the days of my life.”
Fighting Fair Tip: Keep it current. One couple has the rule of thumb that any issue older than the milk in the refrigerator is no longer game. Recurring arguments usually mean that there’s something behind the present problem that irks the other.
Today is the first day of National Marriage Week. It’s a great time to reconnect with your spouse. Take advantage of the short, cold days to spend time together. Talk, dream, or just be in each other’s presence. Pray to rekindle your love.
High school biology is good – but not sufficient for the more important medical decisions we make in life. Learning Natural Family Planning as a couple can update and deepen your knowledge of how the female body works. Consider taking an NFP class together.
“You are the salt of the earth…You are the light of the world,” Jesus says to his disciples (Mt 5:13, 14). Married love is salt and light. It brings joy – flavor – to a world that is too often bleak. It shines the light of hope on weary hearts. Rejoice in your marriage today.
“Where you invest your love, you invest your life.” (Marcus Mumford) Is your love invested in the most important parts of your life – God, your spouse, your children? Take a moment to evaluate.
Marriage is not just about sharing a physical life together, but calling each other on to holiness. It is not always easy to keep Christ at the center of your marriage, so pray for the grace to help your spouse to heaven.
“And you yourself a sword will pierce,” the prophet Simeon says to Mary (Lk 2:35). Are you or your spouse carrying a heavy burden, a painful ache in your heart? Pray to Mary for help in bearing your suffering well. She knows our pain.
What is your ethnic heritage? Is it similar to or different from that of your spouse? February is Black History Month. No matter what your race, it’s interesting to learn about your ethnic heritage.
Sometimes spouses have different conversation goals. Be aware of your styles of communication as well as the direction of your conversation – whether you want to vent, bring clarity to a problem, or get a new viewpoint on a tough situation.
“Taking time to rest is not a waste of time.” (Susan Vogt) Give yourself a break today or tomorrow – from kids, a chore, worries. It doesn’t have to be long to refresh. Take your cue from God, our Creator, who rested on the seventh day.
In today’s Gospel, Jesus preaches the Beatitudes, some of the best-known verses of the New Testament. Jesus’ words are a call to faith and humility in the spiritual life. Which one of the Beatitudes do you need to cultivate more in your own life? Discuss with your spouse and make a concrete decision to wholeheartedly […]
Do your kids drain you of so much energy that you just want to stay home and veg out on a Saturday night? Consider sharing kids! Offer to take another couple’s child(ren) one night to give them a break. Then trade the favor the next week. Or if you don’t have kids, give your friends […]
“Marriage is a lifelong partnership of the whole of life.” (USCCB, Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan) Partnership here means sharing in life together, helping each other, journeying together toward heaven. Does that describe your marriage?
Did you have a dream last night? Recently? If you seldom remember your dreams, make an attempt to remember tonight’s dream. You may be surprised. Share your scariest dream with your spouse.
Today we celebrate the conversion of St. Paul. Conversion is an ongoing process for all of us. Talk with your beloved today about “conversion moments” you’ve experienced – big or small.
There are people in our midst who quietly go about doing thankless jobs like cleaning the toilet, changing sheets, stocking grocery shelves, picking up other people’s garbage, or working in a fast food restaurant. Thank someone for making your life easier. Maybe it’s your spouse.
Jesus often reminds his disciples not to be afraid: “Take heart, it is I; do not be afraid.” (Mt 14: 27) We are human, however, and we still have fears. What are you afraid of? Share your fears with your beloved, and encourage each other.
“I urge you, brothers and sisters…that there be no divisions among you.” (1 Cor 1:10) Husbands and wives united in love are a great gift to the world! Consider those things that divide you and your spouse: old grudges or disagreements. Ask the Holy Spirit for the gift of unity.
Tomorrow is the anniversary of Roe v. Wade. St. John Paul II said, “Marriage is the sanctuary of life.” We grieve the loss of so many lives to abortion. Do something pro-life today: pray together for the protection of human life or visit a sick, elderly, or disabled person. Little actions of kindness build a […]
Today is Inauguration Day. Let us pray that our new president will be guided by truth and justice as he leads our country for the next four years, especially in matters of human dignity, marriage, and family life.