Archive for ‘Daily Marriage Tip’
“There are different forms of service but the same Lord.” (1 Cor. 12:5) Equality doesn’t mean sameness. As men and women, we are equal, but have unique talents and personalities. How do your spouse’s gifts serve your family and the community?
Children are a great gift, and as desired as children usually are in a marriage, raising them can also bring stress. Don’t let arguments over child discipline sap your energy and alienate you from each other. Take a break. Build a list of a few reliable sitters.
“Take it; this is my body…This is my blood of the covenant.” (Mk 14:22, 24) Marriage finds its nourishment in the Eucharist, Jesus’s Body and Blood given to us. Take, eat; take, drink, and be strengthened!
We remember what we want to hear. Do you ever unintentionally but conveniently “forgot” something your spouse asked you to do? It’s easy to do, but try to be more attentive, even when inconvenient.
“A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” (Ecc. 4:12) Invite God into your marriage daily. Prayer can open up a third perspective when you’re not sure what to do.
Marriage is not so much a matter of finding the right person as being the right person. Relationship skills can be learned. Try to improve yours today.
“Do what’s natural” is a common and well, “natural,” approach to many decisions. Have you considered learning to use Natural Family Planning (NFP)? Click here for more information.
“Everything of mine is yours and everything of yours is mine.” (John 17:9) Although Jesus was addressing his Father with these words, they also apply to married couples. Are there any possessions that you are reluctant to share with your beloved?
What’s the difference between constructive criticism and nagging? Repetition. Unless your spouse is hard of hearing, trust that saying your criticism – with kindness – once (or at most twice) is enough.
“Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the holy Spirit.” (Mt 28:19) We are called to lead others to Christ. Reflect on how you and your family are living out this call. Be witnesses to the love of Christ.
Are you a detail person while your beloved sees the big picture – or vice-versa? These differences can complement each other for good, but if too extreme they can cause friction. Make a commitment to see the other’s point of view.
You think you’re right. Your spouse thinks the opposite. Neither of you wins by making the other wrong. Try giving the benefit of the doubt to your beloved. Try it their way – at least once.
(Reader’s Tip) When you get frustrated, pray for understanding.
Often the simple act of rebooting can remedy a computer problem. Sometimes marriages need a reboot. If a problem is not resolving readily, try this: Stop. Let both of you cool off. Forgive. Ask for a “do over.”
Using Natural Family Planning (NFP) helps couples develop an attitude of welcoming children. NFP can also be used to space or limit family size, but an open heart goes a long way.
Today we remember the men and women who sacrificed for our country. Pray today for military families who have lost a spouse or child, or who are far away from loved ones.
“Receive the holy Spirit.” (John 20:22) The Holy Spirit is a powerful presence in our lives. Invite the Holy Spirit to work in your marriage and to lead you on the path to holiness.
(Reader’s Tip) When he has long workdays, I surprise him and drop off special treats at his office. It always re-energizes him, physically and mentally.
Is your entertainment time ruled by “screens”? Take a break. Use screen-free time as a way to reignite romance and reunite your family the old fashioned way – with conversation, games, and creative fun.
You’ve probably heard of the advice: “Never go to bed angry.” Although generally this is a fine rule, sometimes a good night’s sleep can provide a cooling off period and help you get fresh perspective.
When you and your spouse are at loggerheads, it’s hard to remember that your beloved is your beloved – not your enemy. He or she isn’t trying to be difficult, but just trying to say that something is very important to him/her. Listen to the need.
(Reader’s Tip) When you wake up in the morning, think of something you can do that would make your beloved’s day better. It can be big and special or small and helpful.
Sometime we stress ourselves (and therefore our spouse and children) by worrying about things that don’t really matter in the long run, such as compulsive neatness, wealth, or fame. Are you guilty of giving undue attention to things that will pass?
“Consecrate them in the truth. Your word is truth.” (John 17:17) Are you always honest with your spouse? Do not lie to them – even if it is a “harmless” lie. We are called to proclaim the truth.
(Reader’s Tip) Pray together daily, listen to each other and wait to respond until the other is finished speaking.