Archive for ‘Daily Marriage Tip’
What’s your favorite religious or spiritual book other than the Bible? Why has it touched you so? Has your spouse also read it? If your favorite is not the same, maybe it’s time to read a new book.
Personality is like eye color – there’s not a right or wrong kind. It’s also not crucial that couples be the same. Often, however, arguments start when we expect our spouse to think and act just like us. If you’ve never taken a personality inventory, try the audit on this website.
“Repent, and believe in the gospel.” (Mk 1:15) Any two people who live as closely as husband and wife are bound to emotionally hurt each other at times. It may be a careless word or wanting your way. Don’t be too proud to repent. “I’m sorry” is the first step. Making amends is the next.
Married couples and priests need each other. Is there a priest in your life – your pastor, or a former teacher? – whom you could invite to dinner, or to a family event? Or make a point of remember his ordination anniversary or birthday.
Lent is approaching. Is there a bad habit that you would like to eliminate? Anything you wouldn’t want to teach your children to do? Lent and your children can give you the motivation to let go of it. Ask your spouse for help.
“Merciful and gracious is the Lord, slow to anger and abounding in kindness.” (Ps 103:8) In these words, God gives married couples a blueprint for life together! Are you slow to anger…or quick to find fault? Would your spouse say you are “abounding in kindness”? Ask the Lord for help to love your spouse as […]
Communication tip: Agree in advance that when a conversation gets heated, either spouse can call a “time out.” Take at least 20 minutes to cool down and process what was said before regrouping and continuing the discussion.
The lay movement Teams of Our Lady asks its members (married couples) to have a “sit down” once a month. Husband and wife set aside time to give each other undivided attention and share what’s on their hearts. Could this practice benefit your marriage?
Do you remember what Scriptures were read at your wedding? Look them up today and read them to each other. Do they say something different to you than they did on your wedding day?
“Your offenses; your sins I remember no more.” (Is 43:25) “Child, your sins are forgiven.” (Mk 2:5) We humans hold grudges – but that is not the way of God, the way of love. Let go of an annoyance or fault of your beloved today. Don’t bring it up again – at least for a […]
“Marriage is not merely a private institution.” (USCCB, Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan) Marriage matters for many people beyond the married couple: children, neighbors, friends. Reflect today on all the lives your marriage has touched.
President’s Day can be more than a day off work, a time when government offices are closed, or stores have sales. What does it mean to lead? What does it mean to protect and to seek the common good? These are questions for both spouses and presidents.
“Go first and be reconciled with your brother, and then come and offer your gift,” Jesus says to his disciples. (Mt 5:24) Is there anyone you need to reconcile with? Perhaps your spouse? A child? A parent or parent-in-law? Pray for opportunities for healing a broken or tense relationship.
One of the most reliable predictors of a lifelong marriage is the commitment to a lifelong marriage. Put the “D word” (Divorce) off the negotiating table. Commitment pushes you toward solutions, and perhaps a counselor.
What’s the most romantic trip you can take? Perhaps it’s a trip down memory lane. On this day of love, remember how you met, your first date, your first kiss, your proposal/acceptance, your first night as a married couple…
What’s your spouse’s favorite treat? See if you guessed right. Now you’ve got a plan; it’s just a matter of when you surprise your beloved with it.
Renew your vows today or on Valentine’s Day. “I _____, take you, _____, to be my wife/husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”
As Valentine’s Day approaches, give your spouse a gift of memory. If you haven’t already, memorize your wedding vows. Few people like to memorize but it’s a way to keep your vows always in mind. Try it. The wedding vows will be tomorrow’s tip.
An easy way to deepen your marriage today: Find one interesting tidbit (article, blog entry, exercise…) on www.ForYourMarriage.org and share it with your spouse. This Tip doesn’t count!
“You are the salt of the earth…You are the light of the world,” Jesus says to his disciples. Married love is salt and light. It brings joy – flavor – to a world that is too often bleak. It shines the light of hope on weary hearts. Rejoice in your marriage today.
Fighting Fair Tip: Keep it current. One couple has the rule of thumb that any issue older than the milk in the refrigerator is no longer game. Recurring arguments usually mean that there’s something behind the present problem that irks the other.
What is your ethnic heritage? Is it similar or different from that of your spouse? February is Black History Month. No matter what your race, it’s interesting to learn about your ethnic heritage. Are there any ethnic traits that you carry into your relationship?
High school biology is good – but not sufficient for the more important medical decisions we make in life. Learning Natural Family Planning as a couple can update and deepen your knowledge of how the female body works. Consider taking an NFP class together.
How do you like to be treated when you are ill? Do you want to be left alone or fussed over? What about your spouse? Don’t assume that what you like is what your beloved would like. Ask.
A good argument can be a labor of love. Have something sensitive or difficult to talk about with your spouse? Try holding hands and maintaining direct eye contact when you are having a discussion about a disagreement.