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What’s your shopping personality: In and out as quickly as possible; shopping as recreation; never met a bargain I didn’t like; research project? How do you reconcile your differences?
If one of you is sad, sick, or depressed how can you tell? What do you usually do to comfort each other? Does talking about it help or only make it worse? Do hugs and kisses help? Would you rather be left alone? What does your beloved want you to do to help? Ask.
How do you signal each other when you’re ready to leave a party? Does the signal mean say goodbye to the host and leave? Or does it mean, “I’m heading for the door but I’ll probably pass five people on the way and want to have a conversation with each of them.”
How do you feel about parties? Some people love to host them while others prefer going to them. Still others would rather stay home and cocoon. If you don’t have the same socializing style, what compromises have you worked out?
Marriage is not always 50/50. Sometimes one of you will need to give much more than the other. Striving to give your all to your beloved is better than measuring tit for tat.
“It is easier to build a child than to repair an adult.” (Marilyn Krock) Think about this the next time a child stresses you or your marriage. If you’re tempted to say, “Later, dear” or “Can’t it wait” consider the long term cost benefits, not just your patience.
What’s your favorite food? What’s your spouse’s favorite food? Did you guess right? How soon can you make or buy the favorite for your sweetie?
(Reading: The Prodigal Son) Which person in this parable do you identify with—the father, the younger son, the older son? Ask your spouse. It’s a good way to start a thought-provoking conversation.
(Reader’s Tip) Do you and/or your spouse have parents who have been married a long time? What can you learn from them?
Psychologically, negative messages are more powerful than positive ones. If you’ve been hard on yourself lately, list three things you did well today. It’ll make you a more pleasant person for your spouse to be around.
Want to pray more, but not sure how? Try taping a list of people you want to pray for (or a morning offering) to the bathroom mirror. Make sure your spouse is #1. You both will see it every day. Maybe alternate the responsibility for this each week.
Does your beloved need to hear words of love or apology from you? Do it today. There might not be a tomorrow.
“We must have places where children can have a whole group of adults they can trust”. (Margaret Mead) Does your family have such a community? If you don’t have children yourselves, can you be that supportive community for your neighborhood?
(Reader’s Tip) A great marriage lets you fall in love many times…and always with the same person!
Consider living beneath your means. Many people in the world don’t have a choice. Even it you are still collecting necessities for your household, is there one thing that you can give away this week? You’ll be richer for it.
“You carry out the mission of the church of the home in ordinary ways when…you pray together…God answers all prayers, but sometimes in surprising ways.” (Follow the Way of Love, USCCB) Looking back on the past year, can you identify a prayer that has been answered?
How FREE are you and your family? Can you enjoy each other’s company without spending money? Can you have fun without depending on electricity? Explore free recreation this weekend. Sing and dance – or at least talk and walk.
(Feast of Blessed Mother Teresa) We now know that Mother Teresa suffered “dark nights” when she keenly felt God’s absence. Even in marriage, one can experience loneliness. Stay faithful to prayer and to your vocation, even if you don’t feel like it.
Unemployment can put stress on a marriage – and it’s not just about the money. It’s about what value am I to my family or our society? If your spouse is job hunting or underemployed be gentle and be there for each other. If this is not a problem, pray for those who need work.
Sending the kids back to school after the holiday weekend can be chaotic. Make sure to connect with your spouse. A more-than-casual welcome or goodbye kiss is a good start.
On this Labor Day, use a labor saving device (washer, microwave, car, blender, etc.) to save some time and do something playful with your honey. Pray for (and thank) those who worked to make your life easier.
In today’s reading (Luke 14:1, 7-14) Jesus urges us to humble ourselves—not an easy task in today’s world! Can you defer to your spouse today, perhaps in the choice of TV program or what to have for dinner?
70 percent of women in a recent survey said they would rather have chocolate than sex (Redbook, 2007, February). Husbands, want to woo your wife? Maybe chocolate is not the treat that your honey enjoys, but take the time to notice what turns her on. She’ll appreciate the effort.
Wives, what turns your husband on? Is it special clothing (or lack of it), perfume, a special food, flirting, anything and everything. You know best. Don’t make him beg for sex. Being surprised and wanted can be a turn on. He’ll appreciate the effort.
When asked, “If you could come back as anyone after you die, who would it be?” Winston Churchill thought for a second, turned to his wife, and said, “Mrs. Churchill’s second husband.” Make a tribute to your spouse today.