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In today’s reading, the parable of the rich man and Lazarus (Luke 16: 19-31), Jesus challenges our attitudes towards the poor. How has your marriage been a blessing to someone in need? Is there something you can do today?
Do you know a childhood disappointment of your beloved? A goal or dream that was never achieved? If not, ask. Console. Is it too late?”
“Before we were married I expected that Rita would always be ready for sex when I was and that we would do it the way they vote in Chicago – early and often.” (Bob Boeke) Over time sexual desires can diverge. The cure? Patience, creativity, and compromise.
Over the years spouses learn little tricks to make life together work more smoothly. Are there any adjustments you’ve decided to make to accommodate your beloved’s idiosyncrasies like timing, temperature, eating, or sleeping preferences?
Humility is a great asset in marriage provided it is not laziness disguised as humility. “I don’t care. Whatever you want” can be gracious or it can mean you are overly passive. Check it out.
Christ died for us. Parents give their lives daily for their children. Overlook one fault of your child today. If you don’t have a child, give your spouse a free pass on an annoying habit.
(Reader’s Tip) It’s easy to go about our daily life without really connecting. I make a point of sitting next to my spouse and holding hands to reconnect.
What’s your shopping personality: In and out as quickly as possible; shopping as recreation; never met a bargain I didn’t like; research project? How do you reconcile your differences?
If one of you is sad, sick, or depressed how can you tell? What do you usually do to comfort each other? Does talking about it help or only make it worse? Do hugs and kisses help? Would you rather be left alone? What does your beloved want you to do to help? Ask.
How do you signal each other when you’re ready to leave a party? Does the signal mean say goodbye to the host and leave? Or does it mean, “I’m heading for the door but I’ll probably pass five people on the way and want to have a conversation with each of them.”
How do you feel about parties? Some people love to host them while others prefer going to them. Still others would rather stay home and cocoon. If you don’t have the same socializing style, what compromises have you worked out?
Marriage is not always 50/50. Sometimes one of you will need to give much more than the other. Striving to give your all to your beloved is better than measuring tit for tat.
“It is easier to build a child than to repair an adult.” (Marilyn Krock) Think about this the next time a child stresses you or your marriage. If you’re tempted to say, “Later, dear” or “Can’t it wait” consider the long term cost benefits, not just your patience.
What’s your favorite food? What’s your spouse’s favorite food? Did you guess right? How soon can you make or buy the favorite for your sweetie?
(Reading: The Prodigal Son) Which person in this parable do you identify with—the father, the younger son, the older son? Ask your spouse. It’s a good way to start a thought-provoking conversation.
(Reader’s Tip) Do you and/or your spouse have parents who have been married a long time? What can you learn from them?
Psychologically, negative messages are more powerful than positive ones. If you’ve been hard on yourself lately, list three things you did well today. It’ll make you a more pleasant person for your spouse to be around.
Want to pray more, but not sure how? Try taping a list of people you want to pray for (or a morning offering) to the bathroom mirror. Make sure your spouse is #1. You both will see it every day. Maybe alternate the responsibility for this each week.
Does your beloved need to hear words of love or apology from you? Do it today. There might not be a tomorrow.
“We must have places where children can have a whole group of adults they can trust”. (Margaret Mead) Does your family have such a community? If you don’t have children yourselves, can you be that supportive community for your neighborhood?
(Reader’s Tip) A great marriage lets you fall in love many times…and always with the same person!
Consider living beneath your means. Many people in the world don’t have a choice. Even it you are still collecting necessities for your household, is there one thing that you can give away this week? You’ll be richer for it.
“You carry out the mission of the church of the home in ordinary ways when…you pray together…God answers all prayers, but sometimes in surprising ways.” (Follow the Way of Love, USCCB) Looking back on the past year, can you identify a prayer that has been answered?
How FREE are you and your family? Can you enjoy each other’s company without spending money? Can you have fun without depending on electricity? Explore free recreation this weekend. Sing and dance – or at least talk and walk.
(Feast of Blessed Mother Teresa) We now know that Mother Teresa suffered “dark nights” when she keenly felt God’s absence. Even in marriage, one can experience loneliness. Stay faithful to prayer and to your vocation, even if you don’t feel like it.