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(Reader’s Tip) Praise your spouse for something today, even if it’s something small.
Scripture tells us to “humbly regard others as more important than yourselves” (Phil 2:3). What act of humility can you practice in your marriage today?
At times, we all need our space. Do you and your spouse have a place where you can each go for some alone time?
(Reader’s Tip) We serve each other when we least feel like it. It is the small sacrifices like running to the store to get a treat for your spouse when you’d rather stay home.
Grandparents enrich the life of their families. They should be cherished, not merely tolerated (Follow the Way of Love). What have you learned about marriage from an older family member?
Parenting can feel all-consuming, especially if you have young children. Periodically take time to visit a friend, renew a hobby and, especially, reconnect with your spouse. You will feel refreshed and more responsive to your children.
“All these devoted themselves with one accord to prayer.” (Acts 1:14) Plan to spend time praying with your spouse today. Prayer builds marital unity.
“Mary set out and traveled to the hill country in haste.” (Lk 1:39) Mary lost no time in going to her cousin Elizabeth. Do you “travel” to meet your beloved’s needs “in haste”? Taking Mary as your model, try responding without hesitation today to requests from your spouse.
Whose fault was your last fight? Maybe it clearly was one of you, but more often it’s a combination of misunderstanding, forgetting to do something, and spouses having different expectations. To resolve an argument look at what you contributed more than what your spouse did wrong.
What lifts up your spirit? A funny story, a good meal, a hug, a compliment? Lift up each other today.
“To listen carefully to one another, especially those who disagree with me, and to consider others’ feelings and needs rather than insist on having my own way.” (#3, Family Pledge of Nonviolence) Could your family say “Yes” to this? World peace begins at home.
Rita Boeke tells of how she played a practical joke on her husband, Bob, by filling his car with balloons when he was a teacher. (Forever And A Day) Can you think of a practical joke that would bring a smile to your beloved – and not get you in trouble?
Memorial Day is a time for picnics and parades. But why? It is only because others have given their lives for us that we get a holiday. Have you or any of your relatives served in the armed services? For whom and for what cause would you give your life?
“Always be ready to give…a reason for your hope.” (1 Pt 3:15) And always be ready to speak of your love! Speaking kindly of one’s spouse strengthens the marriage bond. Look for opportunities to build each other up, both alone and in public.
Is your own marriage strong and happy? Good. Perhaps it’s time to give back by mentoring engaged couples or becoming involved with marriage ministry in your parish.
“Marriage is a public good, not just a private relationship. We have a public stake in healthy marriages…. Our society suffers with the collapse of the relationship of the couple who brings a child into the world.” (Bill Doherty) Support others’ marriages too.
The Church remembers St. Rita of Cascia today. St. Rita suffered a difficult marriage and the deaths of her children. She is considered a patron for those undergoing marital difficulties. Learn about her today, and ask her prayers if you or others you know are struggling.
Consider taking an adult education class together. It could be on technology, a book club, marriage enrichment, a scripture study, or learning more about your faith. Don’t have time to go to a class? Send each other informative emails. Keep your minds alive and in sync.
Let fire reignite your love. Try a candlelit dinner, sitting in front of a fireplace, or light the house with candles. Be creative. Don’t forget to talk.
“It takes a certain quantity of time to catch the quality times. The time it takes to listen to a child’s worry may take less than a minute. Being there when the worry comes up may involve an entire day of just being around.” (Susan Vogt) Same goes for spouses.
“Do not let your hearts be troubled,” says Jesus. (Jn 14:1) What causes your heart to be troubled? What causes your spouse’s heart to be troubled? Share your troubles with each other. Then give them to Jesus and pray for peace in your marriage and in your home.
Save time at the end of each day to share the highs and lows of your day with each other. Go beyond “just the facts” to how it made you feel.
“Have you anything here to eat?” (Lk 24:41) Eating together is not just about food but the nourishment of each other’s company. What’s your favorite way of dining – fast food, meat and potatoes, vegetarian, restaurant, picnics, candlelit at home…? Try it tonight.
The Church remembers St. Isidore today, a farmer. Growing food together can be a meaningful activity for a family – shared labor, shared rewards. Start small, with a potted herb or a few plants in the backyard.
Explore what made your beloved the person he/she is. What traits did he get from his parents? Who was the most influential person in your spouse’s life during childhood? Ask. Share.