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Rita Boeke tells of how she played a practical joke on her husband, Bob, by filling his car with balloons when he was a teacher. (Forever And A Day) Can you think of a practical joke that would bring a smile to your beloved – and not get you in trouble?
Memorial Day is a time for picnics and parades. But why? It is only because others have given their lives for us that we get a holiday. Have you or any of your relatives served in the armed services? For whom and for what cause would you give your life?
“Always be ready to give…a reason for your hope.” (1 Pt 3:15) And always be ready to speak of your love! Speaking kindly of one’s spouse strengthens the marriage bond. Look for opportunities to build each other up, both alone and in public.
Is your own marriage strong and happy? Good. Perhaps it’s time to give back by mentoring engaged couples or becoming involved with marriage ministry in your parish.
An unexpected pregnancy and loss cause Josh and Stacey to reflect on life, trust, and God’s plan.
“Marriage is a public good, not just a private relationship. We have a public stake in healthy marriages…. Our society suffers with the collapse of the relationship of the couple who brings a child into the world.” (Bill Doherty) Support others’ marriages too.
The Church remembers St. Rita of Cascia today. St. Rita suffered a difficult marriage and the deaths of her children. She is considered a patron for those undergoing marital difficulties. Learn about her today, and ask her prayers if you or others you know are struggling.
Consider taking an adult education class together. It could be on technology, a book club, marriage enrichment, a scripture study, or learning more about your faith. Don’t have time to go to a class? Send each other informative emails. Keep your minds alive and in sync.
In a message to the Philippine Bishops and all of those at the Asian Conference on the Family, Pope Francis recalls the importance of the family in society as it serves as the basis of society and human relationships.
Let fire reignite your love. Try a candlelit dinner, sitting in front of a fireplace, or light the house with candles. Be creative. Don’t forget to talk.
“It takes a certain quantity of time to catch the quality times. The time it takes to listen to a child’s worry may take less than a minute. Being there when the worry comes up may involve an entire day of just being around.” (Susan Vogt) Same goes for spouses.
“Do not let your hearts be troubled,” says Jesus. (Jn 14:1) What causes your heart to be troubled? What causes your spouse’s heart to be troubled? Share your troubles with each other. Then give them to Jesus and pray for peace in your marriage and in your home.
Save time at the end of each day to share the highs and lows of your day with each other. Go beyond “just the facts” to how it made you feel.
“Have you anything here to eat?” (Lk 24:41) Eating together is not just about food but the nourishment of each other’s company. What’s your favorite way of dining – fast food, meat and potatoes, vegetarian, restaurant, picnics, candlelit at home…? Try it tonight.
Marriage can be the source of great joy but sometimes this joy comes from unexpected places. Donna finds this out when caring for Tim and an unpleasant toothache.
The Church remembers St. Isidore today, a farmer. Growing food together can be a meaningful activity for a family – shared labor, shared rewards. Start small, with a potted herb or a few plants in the backyard.
Explore what made your beloved the person he/she is. What traits did he get from his parents? Who was the most influential person in your spouse’s life during childhood? Ask. Share.
Could watching movies help prevent divorce? A recent study shows the positive effects that discussing the relationships that are portrayed in film can have on one’s own relationship.
Make the extra effort. Husbands, it’s tempting to forego those dating niceties. Opening her door, pulling out her chair, walking on the curb side may seem old fashioned, but it’s a simple way to treat your wife like a queen.
Moses had his relatives; Jesus had the apostles; even the Lone Ranger had Tonto. Do you have a community of friends and relatives who can back you up, and support you in your marriage and parenting? Look for friends who share your values.
“I came so that they might have life and have it more abundantly,” says Jesus. (Jn 10:10) Mothers, grandmothers, godmothers, and spiritual mothers: how can you help those entrusted to your care experience abundant life?
A trip down memory lane: Recall the first full day of your marriage. Did you go on a honeymoon? Was it exhilarating or exhausting? Remember your first home together. What did you like best about it? Are you still in it? Reminisce together.
Are you and your spouse fit and healthy? Good. Some, however, know they should exercise or eat more nutritiously but procrastinate. Encourage each other. Exercise together or give the other time to do it in his/her own way. Don’t nag, just make it pleasant.
Playfulness brings joy to a marriage, but some of us are very serious people. If you’re not the naturally playful type you may have to fake it. Even if you stumble you can laugh together at your awkward attempts.
How do you stay close when one of you is away – on a business trip, deployed, off with the guys or gals? Consider calling or e-mailing daily. Skype a good night kiss. Pray for each other and let the other know when you did it. What do you do that helps?