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Is your marriage going through a rocky spell? It’s tempting to blame it on a stressful job, the kids, or getting older. All of these things can stress a marriage, but not necessarily kill it. To find the underlying cause most couples need help. Don’t be afraid to ask for it.
Where did all the flowers and magic go? Infatuation may get a couple together but eventually fades and romance alone will not keep you together over the long haul. Common values, commitment to each other, and shared experiences are the glue.
Of all the many rights of children, Pope Francis emphasized their right to grow up in a family with both a mother and a father as he spoke to the International Catholic Child Bureau.
Stacey reflects on ways that her marriage informs her Christian life of discipleship.
Praying the Rosary together, as a family, is very beautiful and a source of great strength!” (Pope Francis) Do you pray the rosary as a family? Try it!
Reminder: Easter lasts for 50 days! (Lent was only 40.) A lesson that joy will have the last word. How can you and your spouse practice being joyful this Easter season?
Christ is risen! Celebrate new life today. Recall a hardship in your marriage that is now history. Rejoice that you’ve weathered it together. Remember this, and Jesus’ Resurrection, in future tough times.
Today, as we mourn Christ’s death and await Easter morning, remember those who grieve. Perhaps it is your own family. Share in each other’s grief to make the burden lighter.
“Spouses are therefore the permanent reminder to the Church of what happened on the Cross.” (Bl. John Paul II) Powerful. As a sacrament, marriage shows to the world the love Christ has for His Church – love that took Him to the Cross. Pray to live this love in your own marriage.
“As I have done for you, you should also do,” Jesus tells his disciples after washing their feet. (Jn 13:15) A tall order! Talk with your spouse about ways to “wash their feet” – do small, humble acts of service for each other.
Pope Francis encourages us to witness to the Gospel so that we might protect life with courage and love, especially that of children and the elderly, as they are the “hope of the people!”
Would your spouse describe you as a good listener? If you’re not sure, humbly seek out their opinion, and be willing to grow.
“Marriage…is to be a school for nurturing gratitude.” (USCCB, Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan) How do you foster gratitude in your marriage? Try coming up with three things every night to be grateful for. Add them to a “gratitude journal” and count your blessings!
If you want someone to change, encouragement is more effective than criticism. Look for one thing about your spouse or child’s behavior that you can compliment today. Although easier with pre-schoolers, perhaps sending an older child an e-mail or text would work. Kiss your spouse.
Hosanna to the King of Kings! The start of Holy Week – with its stark reading of Jesus’ Passion – is a great reminder to reexamine our hearts. Is Jesus the King of our marriage and our home? Pray to enter fully into Holy Week with your spouse and children.
Take a trip down memory lane. Retell the story of your engagement and wedding day to each other or your kids. What was the craziest, funniest, most endearing part of these milestones for you?
Fighting Fair Tip: Use “I feel” statements. This is an old standby but it still works. Instead of saying, “You make me so angry when you…” say, “I feel upset when you… Would you be willing to …” It’s not a magic cure but it decreases defensiveness.
Is the internet robbing you of couple time? Sure it saves time and answers a lot of questions, but it can also be an addiction. If your spouse complains about it, it’s a problem. Decide on mutually agreeable limits.
Do one or both of you struggle with pornography use? Despite what the culture says, pornography use is never okay. It can cause severe harm to marriages and families. For help, visit www.foryourmarriage.org and search for “Overcoming obstacles: pornography.”
Don’t let the “terrible trifles” eat away at your marriage. If the kind of toilet paper is important to your wife, don’t fight it. If your husband likes to buy in bulk to save money, it may be an annoyance but not the hill you want to die on. Try to find the good in […]
Do you find yourself giving your spouse the “dregs” of your time? Whatever your life circumstances, making time for one another is an ongoing challenge. Try taking a good hard look at how you spend your time: what could be cut out? Could you “schedule in” your spouse more often?
A few months before his wedding day, Anthony writes about “the manly art of waiting” and how he realized that he wasn’t waiting for an abstract list of adjectives but for a person named Sara.
And Jesus wept.” (Jn 11:45) Such meaning for so short a verse! Spouses share in each other’s joys…and sorrows. Don’t be afraid to weep together when heartbreaking things happen. Jesus showed his love for Lazarus through his tears.
A meal is a holy thing to share. Who cooks, prepares the table, or cleans up in your family? Is one of you very nutrition conscious and the other not? It doesn’t have to be gourmet to be healthy and delicious. Who talks the most? Who leads a prayer? Share it all.
In his April 2 audience, Pope Francis spoke about the sacrament of marriage and practical ways married couples can live their vocation to be a sign of God’s love.