Archive for ‘Marriage Resource Center’
The shorter days can make it more difficult to maintain your fitness activities. Do you need to adjust your routine? Does your spouse need encouragement or help to stay physically fit?
Getting married doesn’t mean that you’ll never feel attracted to someone other than your spouse. Stacey writes here about how she and Josh have navigated this situation with honesty and clear boundaries. The key: “Always and everywhere, I am Joshua’s wife.”
How do you make time for your spouse? Is time together a priority in your relationship? Sara and Justin reflect on the value of setting aside time just to be together.
Traditional advice to newlyweds: Never go to a place you wouldn’t take your wife. Don’t go to bed angry. Always part and greet with a kiss. What advice would you give a newly married couple?
“When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls.” (Proverbs 31:10) Describe the value of your wife in poetic terms today. Go ahead try it! If you are the wife, try filling in the blank: When one finds a worthy husband, his value is far beyond _______.
Boredom and frustration are part of life. Let your children experience both so that they can learn how to handle them.
Do emotional or internet affairs count? YES. They are painful because you’re giving your best self to another person and cheating your spouse out of your energy. Besides, it’s usually the first step toward physical infidelity. Pour your energy into making this marriage work.
Do you sometimes “beat around the bush” with your spouse rather than ask a direct question? Practice using tact and gentleness to ask a difficult question.
Fighting Fair Tip: Hold hands. It may sound corny but try holding hands when discussing something sensitive. It physically reminds you that you may disagree about something, but that you’re still connected and committed to each other.
Do you and your spouse have similar or different political views? Just as serious political and religious differences challenge our country, they can also stress a marriage because they reflect our deepest values. Seek the common good, not just my good.
What do you think your spouse’s most cherished personal possession is? Check it out. Were you right?
Do you thrive on routine, or love being spontaneous? Sara and Justin write about the importance of routine to their marriage and family life: “I am convinced that our routine is the key to thriving as persons and maintaining the balance we need in our family.”
In new research on divorce, Catholics enjoy a lower-than-average divorce rate – a sign of hope. But marriage rates continue to be low among both Catholics and the general public – a sign of concern and a reminder of the need to encourage young people to embrace the vocation of lifelong marriage.
What’s the wisest thing you’ve done so far in your life (other than marrying your beloved)? How is your spouse wise?
Hospitality has always been important to the Noems. Here, Josh talks about being hospitable…to his wife: making her homecoming after work pleasant and tending to her needs.
One way to prepare your children for a healthy marriage is to let them see you courting and being romantic with each other. Within the bounds of propriety, of course, a little playfulness helps them see the wholesomeness of married life.
What does your spouse do that makes you laugh? Often it’s the silly idiosyncrasies or foibles that can be special secrets between you.
Today’s reading from the Book of Wisdom reminds us that God loves all that He has made. Just for today, try to see you spouse as God does—precious and lovable despite his/or faults.
(All Soul’s Day) Do you know much about your spouse’s deceased relatives? Spend some time remembering and telling stories about the holy people in each other’s past. They may not have been perfect, but they are all in the family.
Looking for good advice about disciplining children? Popular author and psychologist Ray Guarendi weaves his typical humor and common sense into true-to-life “discipline scenes” and offers “stage directions” to Mom and Dad. Readable as a whole or in parts.
(All Saints Day) The Catholic Church honors all saints known and unknown today. Although your spouse may not always act like a saint, look for a saintly quality today. Is he or she generous, humble, self-sacrificing, courageous? Celebrate the saint you are living with today.
(Halloween) Do you have a “mask” that you hide behind at work or for company? Sometimes putting on a “good face” is necessary, but don’t let your spouse just get the dregs of your energy and good manners. Be your best real self with your beloved.
Now that their son is over a year old, Sara and Justin are getting questions from relatives about when they’ll be sharing another “announcement.” Reflecting on this, Sara writes that while she would love to welcome another child into their family, she knows that that’s ultimately up to God and His timing. “We’re called to discern God’s will for our family,” she writes, and find ways to serve Him and others in the here and now.
Presumably both of you work and toil for the good of the family – whether within or outside the home. What is your most disliked chore? Consider trading for a day.
“Children need time and space, attention, affection, guidance and conversation…They need jokes, play and touching. They need to have stories told to them by adults who know and love them.” (Mary Pipher) Which one are you best at giving? weakest?