Archive for ‘Marriage Resource Center’
A good argument can be a labor of love. Have something sensitive or difficult to talk about with your spouse? Try holding hands and maintaining direct eye contact when you are having a discussion about a disagreement.
What’s the most dangerous part of your body? In marriage, it’s your tongue. It can discourage, wound, embarrass, and humiliate your beloved. You may try to conceal this weapon but it’ll sneak out in snarky remarks if you don’t tame it. Say enough but know when to stop.
Store clerks are taught to say “Have a nice day” to each customer. The marriage version is “How was your day?” Such a simple question but it says “I care about you and how you spend the time when we’re apart.” Listen carefully to the answer.
Do you ever find yourself at a loss for words when the moment arrives to pray during a family gathering, for example, at Christmas or Easter dinner, after a child’s baptism or during an engagement party? If so, “Prayers for the Domestic Church” may be the resource you need.
Sometimes, TV couples can teach us as much about marriage as real life. Josh writes about Jim and Pam on The Office and speculates on what it will take to turn their marriage around.
(Reader’s Tip): Only do those things that will be good for the other. This has given us a better outlook. We think more before we do something.
Strong marriages and troubled marriage both have problems, but the healthy married couple is committed to working through them and finding help when faced with problems they can’t solve alone. Seeking counsel is a sign of strength.
“As I have loved you, so you also should love one another.” (John 13:34) Ponder the way Jesus loved—self-sacrificing, unconditionally, like a shepherd, forgiving–and choose one element to lavish upon your beloved today.
Is your entertainment time ruled by “screens”? Take a break. April 29 – May 5 is “Screen-Free Week.” Use it as a time to reignite romance and reunite your family the old fashioned way – with conversation, games, creative fun.
Marriage preparation programs often highlight the need for couples to invest themselves in their marriage. A recent study underscores the importance of “positive family relationships” in preparing children to be “emotionally invested” in their adult relationships.
(Reader’s Tip) Spend time together talking, listening, praying, laughing,being playful and reconnecting. Make that time for each other.
Have a home date tonight or this weekend. If you have kids, put them to bed early. Dinner can be simple but might include candlelight, soft music, wine or chocolate. After dinner light more candles, look through your wedding album, play, reminisce, make love.
Teaching children to behave at Mass is just the start, writes Stacey. The new challenge, she says, is “focusing in on what is being read and spoken and making some connections with it.”
Is all this coming and going, scrimping and saving, cooking and cleaning, arguing and compromising worth it? The balancing act you refine now will give you wisdom for future challenges. Look at it as training for a marathon. You’ll win.
The diocese where Sara and Justin live has started a capital campaign. They discuss their possible participation and how this will affect their other charitable contributions.
(Reader’s Tip) Always think loving thoughts. Never let the devil creep in with negative talk.
Today is Earth Day. Celebrate by using less plastic and disposables for a day, maybe even for a week, maybe forever. The less we consume the world’s resources the less we will fight over who gets what. Decide as a couple one earth friendly act to do today.
“So they shook the dust from their feet…” (Acts 13:51) Some arguments just aren’t worth fighting. If you and your beloved have an ongoing disagreement, consider whether it’s time to shake the dust from your feet and let this one go.
As you and your spouse improve your conflict resolution skills, it sets the tone for the next generation. If you already have children don’t hide your minor conflicts from them. Let them see that you can disagree, work it out, and then reconcile.
British Archbishop Vincent Nichols recently addressed the question “What kind of city do we want?” He pointed out that people make the city; moreover, the family “is the first school of citizenship, and loving, stable families are the vital building block of every city, as they are of any human society.”
(Especially for Empty Nesters) Where did the time go? It seems like just yesterday that…(Fill in the blank.) Your job as a parent may be over but you can still worry. Deal with the worry through prayer.
(Especially for Parents of Teens) You’re seldom right (in your teenager’s eyes). Stay tight with your spouse because you need each other to discern when to be flexible and when to hang tough. Remind each other you’re not crazy.
(Especially for Active Parents) The middle years of marriage can be swamped with complex childcare arrangements, overtime work, and little sleep. It’s tempting to want to give up. Spell each other. Simplify what you can. Love your kids but don’t let them boss you around.
Fear for their children’s safety hits Josh and Stacey in a personal way. How can parents take reasonable precautions but not live in fear?
(Especially for newly marrieds) The early years are usually full of adjustments and new traditions. Are there any customs from your families of origin (such as how you celebrate Christmas or how you vacation) that you need to let go of?