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Stepping outside of your comfort zone is scary…and can have fantastic results. Case in point: the time Donna volunteered for her parish carnival’s gambling tent, and ended up meeting the love of her life!
Just as Jesus was transfigured and appeared gloriously to Peter, James, and John (Mk 9: 2-10) so too love for your spouse can bring out the best in the other. Recall for a moment your wedding day and the wonder of seeing each other clothed in splendor.
Resist the urge to buy something new this week. Have each person in the family pick one possession to give away during Lent. Consider gently-used toys, books, or hand-me-downs that need to find a new home.
What’s your favorite prayer or scripture? Do you know what your spouse’s is? Why not say it together tonight?
Love is so much more than manners, but being chivalrous or kind can reignite a marriage that’s getting too dull. One husband makes a practice of leaping into the bathroom, Superman-style, with a towel to greet his wife after her shower. It may be silly but it’s still charming.
Pope Francis asks the families of the world to pray for two upcoming Synods on the family, as well as the World Meeting of Families in Philadelphia in 2015.
Are one or both of you retired? It can be a blessing and a challenge. There’s extra time but perhaps physical limitations are increasing. What do you like most about being retired? What do you like least?
“Then God delivered all these commandments.” (Exodus 20:1) Which commandment is most difficult for you? Are you too lenient or harsh on yourself? Sometimes a spouse can be a window into your soul, knowing you even better than you know yourself. Do you dare ask for his/her opinion?
How God’s grace brought me back to the Church of my childhood, and led me to my vocation of marriage (not without resistance on my part!)
Where is your church? Perhaps it’s closer than you think. A family is “the most basic way in which the Lord gathers us, forms us, and acts in the world. The early Church [called] the Christian family a domestic church or church of the home.” (Follow the Way of Love). Pray at home today.
“Be merciful, O Lord, for we have sinned.” (Ps 51:3) On this first Sunday of Lent, make plans to go to confession as a family sometime during Lent. Frequenting the Sacrament of Penance is great practice for asking forgiveness from our spouse for the times we hurt them.
Lenten resolutions don’t have to be grim and tough. What about a secret resolve to romance your spouse for Lent? Seek out fun and creative ways to show how special he/she is to you.
In time married couples work out a division of labor between them. Usually it’s based on skills, interest, and time. Is there a job you dislike? Talk about it. Then try switching for a month.
It’s natural for couples to have different strengths. This division of labor can save time. Sometimes, however, it’s fun to teach each other a personal skill – like how to sew on a button or play a musical instrument. Teach each other something new today, and be patient!
“Remember that you are dust, and to dust you shall return.” What a sobering thought after the playfulness of Mardi Gras. Take time today to thank God for your spouse, realizing that your earthly time together won’t last forever.
Mardi Gras, or “Fat Tuesday,” is about more than decadence and parades. It’s a chance to let your lighter side play. If you’re the serious type, lighten up for a day. If you’re already lighter than air, take responsibility for humoring your spouse.
One word, many experiences. Love – in a long marriage – takes on many different forms, from wedding day to first child to shared sorrows. An intricate blend, best described in the word “forever.”
Lent is just a few days away. Have you spoken yet with your spouse about ideas to grow spiritually this Lent? Set aside time to do so today, and talk about how you can encourage each other.
“Can any of you by worrying add a single moment to your life-span?” Jesus asks his disciples. (Mt 6:27) (The answer is “no.”) What do you get anxious about? Share it with your spouse. Pray together for the gift of peace.
Fighting Fair Tip: Avoid the kitchen sink. This doesn’t mean you can’t argue in the kitchen but rather, keep to the topic. Don’t bring up “everything but the kitchen sink.”
A book about three themes important to everyone’s life. Insights about intimacy in marriage and intimacy with God.
What’s your favorite religious or spiritual book other than the Bible? Why has it touched you so? Has your spouse also read it? If your favorite is not the same, maybe it’s time to read a new book.
Personality is like eye color – there’s not a right or wrong kind. It’s also not crucial that couples be the same. Often, however, arguments start when we expect our spouse to think and act just like us. If you’ve never taken a personality inventory, try the audit on this website.
“Repent, and believe in the gospel.” (Mk 1:15) Any two people who live as closely as husband and wife are bound to emotionally hurt each other at times. It may be a careless word or wanting your way. Don’t be too proud to repent. “I’m sorry” is the first step. Making amends is the next.
Married couples and priests need each other. Is there a priest in your life – your pastor, or a former teacher? – whom you could invite to dinner, or to a family event? Or make a point of remember his ordination anniversary or birthday.