Archive for ‘Marriage Resource Center’
Are you a skunk, a turtle, or an owl? In terms of conflict resolution, skunks just make a stink about it, often with a lot of noise. Turtles ignore or hide from the problem. Owls look the problem over, think about it, then suggest a solution. Choose wisdom!
“Whoever wishes to be great among you will be your servant; whoever wishes to be first among you will be the slave of all.” (Mk 10:43-44) It can be exhausting to always be caring for your children and spouse. Remember who you are ultimately serving: Christ. He will give you the strength (and the rest) […]
Social media rules for couples: Make it clear on your profile that you are married and refer to your spouse in complimentary ways. Share your passwords with each other readily. Limit your time online.
Living in a rural area, Tim and Donna enjoy local wildlife. After a young buck dies, they are reminded that there is generosity in both giving and receiving comfort.
Traditional advice to newlyweds: Never go to a place you wouldn’t take your wife. Don’t go to bed angry. Always part and greet with a kiss. What advice would you give a newly married couple?
“When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls.” (Proverbs 31:10) Describe the value of your wife in poetic terms today. Go ahead try it! If you are the wife, try filling in the blank: When one finds a worthy husband, his value is far beyond _______.
The promise to love, from parents to children, is universal, says Pope Francis.
Do emotional affairs “count”? YES. They are painful because you’re sharing intimately with another person and cheating your spouse out of your energy and full presence. Besides, it’s sometimes the first step toward physical infidelity. Pour your efforts into making this marriage work.
Fighting Fair Tip: Hold hands. It may sound corny but try holding hands when discussing something sensitive. It physically reminds you that you may disagree about something, but that you’re still connected and committed to each other.
“You recall, brothers, our toil and drudgery. Working night and day in order not to burden any of you.” (1 Th 2:9) Presumably both of you work and toil for the good of the family – whether within or outside the home. What is your most disliked chore? Consider trading for a day.
“You are lacking in one thing. Go, sell what you have, and give to [the] poor and you will have treasure in heaven; then come, follow me.” (Mk 10:21) When you have family members to care for, you cannot sell everything, but that doesn’t mean you can’t live a simple life. Give what you can […]
“Children need time and space, attention, affection, guidance and conversation…They need jokes, play and touching. They need to have stories told to them by adults who know and love them.” (Mary Pipher) Which one are you best at giving? Weakest?
Dennis and I recently celebrated our wedding anniversary while on a retreat with some friends from our marriage support group Teams of Our Lady. Along with time to learn from the videos on the retreat, there was a lot of laughter and good-natured ribbing, not much sleep and a fair amount of food and wine […]
Re-connecting after a business trip? There are typically two conflicting needs. The traveling spouse might be looking forward to relaxing while the at-home spouse may be looking for reinforcements (with kids, chores, etc.). Connect first by talking, then reinforce, and finally relax together.
Don’t feel especially loving today (or some days)? Try doing a loving action. It might be physical like a hug, or intellectual like writing a love note. Emotions often follow an action. Remember that love is a verb, not just a feeling.
If you’re about to accuse your spouse of losing an important paper, forgetting to write that thank-you note, or a thousand other irksome offenses, try giving your beloved the benefit of the doubt first. Maybe you misunderstood.
Pope Francis shares beautiful words about the family as the Synod opens.
In Love Factually, Duana Welch lays out ten steps to finding love based on her research as a social scientist.
Do you know the names of the people on your street? Who is home when? The more you know your neighbors, the better they can be extra eyes, ears, and a helpful hand to your children. Be those eyes for your neighbors’ children too.
Pope Francis’ reflections on his journey to Cuba and the United States.
One secret of a memorable date night: novelty. Sometimes the tried and true is fine, but other times the effort to think of something new and fun is refreshing – and creates happy memories.
“Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her; and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” (Mk 10:11-12) Jesus’ teaching is clear: marriage lasts for life. Remove divorce from your vocabulary and trust that Christ will help you to work through your difficulties. For those spouses who have […]
If you suddenly had a million dollars given to you, how would you use it? Is your answer different from that of your beloved? Could any of the money be spent to strengthen other marriages?
Josh and his family went to the World Meeting of Families in Philly! The theme was “Love is Our Mission.”
What’s your decision-making style? Slow or fast? Do you weigh the pros and cons? Go with your gut feeling? How does your style mesh with that of your spouse? Being similar can make life easier, but being different can often help see different angles of the situation.