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Technology and media are useful for connecting and inspiration but they can also rob you of precious couple time. A few seconds can easily morph into an hour. Evaluate your media use, individually and as a couple.
St. Monica prayed for years for the conversion of her son. His feast day is tomorrow: St. Augustine! Mothers and fathers, ask St. Monica to intercede for your child(ren).
Do sports or other recreational pursuits steal your attention away from your beloved? Independent interests are fine as long as your spouse doesn’t feel neglected. Not sure if it’s too much? Ask.
Not all infidelity is sexual. Does your work steal your attention away from your spouse? Do opposite sex colleagues at work seem more appealing because they seem to be on the same wavelength or flatter you? Pay attention to your vow and your spouse.
In today’s Gospel Peter professes of Christ, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.” (Mt 16:16) Do you proclaim Christ as your Savior in your daily life? In your marriage?
(Reader’s Tip) Take a moment each day to say how much you love your spouse. Thank them for what they do for the family, or just say that you miss them when you’re apart.
“Live not as foolish persons but as wise.” (Eph 5:15) Who is the wisest (not smartest) living person you know? What has he/she taught you about true wisdom?
Time Out Part 4: After taking a time out, come back together, now with calmer emotions. If another time out is needed, take it! But don’t avoid the issue indefinitely.
God’s plan…or our plan? Donna writes about the challenges of saying with Mary, “Thy will be done.”
Time Out Part 3: Did you know that physiologically it takes 20 minutes to calm down after getting upset? Time outs give your spouse a chance to “re-set” and be their true, better self.
Time Out Part 2: Call a timeout on yourself when you feel yourself getting agitated. Take 20 minutes to do something calming: pray, breathe deeply, walk. Stepping away is an act of love.
In an apostolic journey to South Korea, Pope Francis spoke of marriage and family life as a “call” and he encouraged Christians to support marriages and families.
Time Out Part 1: Ever shaken a can of soda and then opened it? Pretty messy! Emotions can be like that. Once riled up, we’re liable to say or do something “messy.” One solution: take a time out.
“But the woman came and did him homage, saying, ‘Lord, help me.’ (Mt 15:25) Have the humility to come to God when you are struggling with problems in your family and life.
When all else fails, WAIT. When things aren’t going well in your marriage – and there are bound to be those days – give it time. Sometimes we need to just have some time alone, cool off, sleep on it and then come back with more positive feelings.
We celebrate the Assumption today, a Marian Solemnity. It is a great day to pray a family rosary. Have a special dessert too, in honor of our Blessed Mother.
St. Maximilian Kolbe made the ultimate sacrifice, giving up his life for a fellow prisoner in Auschwitz. Marriage gives us daily opportunities for sacrifice. How can you better love your spouse and children today?
Sara and Anthony are married! Sara writes about their final days of preparation and the biggest lesson they learned.
In parenting, give your children choices whenever practical. It helps them develop decision making skills. Just make sure you only give your child a choice that you’re willing to live with as a parent.
Emily Macke examines a new trend in non-marital relationships to set up a contract for what happens to the couple’s assets if they break up.
(Reader’s Tip) Like your spouse for who he/she is as a person. When I’m really angry at my husband, I realize what kind of man he is and I thank God he chose me to be his wife.
St. Paul exhorts us to remove all bitterness, fury, anger, shouting, abuse, and malice from our relationships. Instead cultivate kindness, compassion, and forgiveness. (Eph. 4:31-32).
“O you of little faith, why did you doubt?” (Mt 14:31) Do you have doubts or concerns about your marriage? Consider enhancing or healing your marriage by checking out some of the resources on our page. Even if your marriage is going well, consider going on a retreat together.
Ruts are the bad side of habits, but marriage can have happy routines. (He always starts the coffee or she remembers to send cards on special days.) What “niceties” have become regular habits in your marriage?
Marriages can suffer from bad habits or “ruts.” Can you identify a rut that you’ve slipped into in your marriage? (Habits of criticism or defensiveness, old grudges held too long.) Ask forgiveness and strive for change.