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Divorcing with Adult Children: The Unacknowledged Suffering

Jane Gordon Julien delves into the unspoken effects of divorce on adult children and the lasting impact on their lives.


April 28, 2016

When you feel negative about something your spouse says, try to look at the statement from a different perspective (especially his/hers) before responding.


April 27, 2016

Thank your spouse for something s/he does for you, especially on a daily basis. A text mid-day or a welcome home “thank you” goes a long way.


April 26, 2016

Love needs care and cultivation; it can’t grow on its own. Talk with your spouse about areas where your love needs some growth.


April 25, 2016

Schedule a lunch break call with your spouse this week if possible. Don’t talk logistics, just check in about how each of you are doing.


April 24, 2016

“The former heaven and the former earth had passed away and the sea was no more” (Rev 21:1). If all earthly matters are pushed aside, what does your marriage look like? Talk with your spouse about it.


April 23, 2016

Make spring cleaning fun! Set aside the day in advance and end the night with a favorite movie or dessert. Make sure to plan a special lunch to keep the helpers engaged!


April 22, 2016

What helps you calm down when you are upset? Are there “trigger” words that cause situations to escalate? Identify these and work with your spouse to adjust your conversations accordingly.


April 21, 2016

Of all of the things you have to do today, is time with your spouse a priority? Be sure to give him/her the attention s/he deserves.


April 20, 2016

Spring planting time! Plant some lettuce outside, or prepare the soil for summer crops. Do the work with your spouse and add some fresh air to your daily routine.


Sacrificial Love

In sacrificing for one another in marriage, writes Kathleen, we become holy.


April 19, 2016

Finances aren’t always fun, but they can be! Take a date night to look at the budget and share some dreams. End it with a favorite dessert.


April 18, 2016

Know where you are emotionally. Take an inventory throughout the day on how you’re feeling. Talk with your spouse about what events cause strong emotions and how to react well.


April 17, 2016

“My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all” (Jn 10:29). God has placed us in the care of Christ; pray with your spouse to place your hardships in his hands.


April 16, 2016

When things are really busy, take fifteen minutes for each other, even if it’s only once a week. Make this time together a top priority.


April 15, 2016

When it comes time to apologize, try incorporating empathy, and acknowledge rules or promises that were broken. This leads to restoration of relationships.


April 14, 2016

Now that the weather is warming up, plan a picnic! It’s a great way to spend some quality time together. Make it a just-for-two date or bring the whole family.


April 13, 2016

“A day without laughter is a day wasted.” – Charlie Chaplin Keep conversation light by laughing at your spouse’s jokes. And say some too!


“Let the Children Come to Me”

Dennis reflects on the innocence and purity of a child’s prayer. His experiences as a grandfather have encouraged him to renew a childlike trust in God. He challenges us to do the same.


“Amoris Laetitia”: The Joy of Love

It’s here! Pope Francis’s prayerful reflections on marriage and the family will give married couples and families much solid guidance in their vocation of love.


April 12, 2016

When conflicts arise, use open-ended questions that allow your spouse to voice his/her feelings and opinions honestly. Avoid asking questions in a demanding tone.


April 11, 2016

Write a poem to your spouse. Even if you are not creative, you can write it with love!


April 10, 2016

“Worthy is the Lamb that was slain to receive power and riches, wisdom and strength, honor and glory and blessing” (Rev 5:12). How can your family give God honor and glory? Offer up your Sunday for His glory.


April 9, 2016

Instead of pointing out faults you see in your spouse, offer ways for improvement. When your spouse does this, be open to his/her feedback.


April 8, 2016

Organize a sport or game night and invite your friends. Friendly competition can be a great way to spend time with differing personalities.


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