Archive for ‘Marriage Resource Center’
Donna and Tim reflect on the spousal call to lead one another to God in marriage.
In the October book of the month, Monsignor Bransfield discusses the painful struggle of pornography addiction and its harmful effects on the human person, while offering a solution in the mercy of God.
(Reader’s Tip) Talk behind your spouse’s back…to God. If there is something your spouse is struggling with or trying to discern, your prayers on their behalf are very important.
Even if you’re not doing anything dishonest or flirting on Facebook or other social media, it can still steal time from your marriage. Take your eyes off your computer or phone and gaze at your beloved for a while.
October is Respect Life Month. We are reminded to value all human life and creation, especially the unborn, the poor and the vulnerable. Talk with your spouse and consider making a donation of goods, time or money to a group that helps those in need.
Reader’s Tip) My husband and I take turns planning our anniversary each year. Sometimes the plans are a total surprise to the other spouse, sometimes it’s a coordinated effort, but it’s always fun.
Can social media harm your marriage? It may start out innocently, just reconnecting with an old friend. Then you start sharing interests and news that you haven’t told your spouse. Be cautious: Online intimacy can grow and seem more exciting than real life.
Jesus’ parable of the vineyard and the two sons (Mt 21:28-32) reminds us that actions count more than words. Strive to make your words match your actions, and your actions be trustworthy.
(Reader’s Tip) Fall more in love every day. Don’t ever let the romance stop. Buy flowers often.
Stacey shares three easy ways to pray with your spouse and children using Ignatian Spirituality.
“What were you arguing about?…If anyone wishes to be first, he shall be the last.” (Mk 9:33, 35) This teaching of Jesus parallels the perennial marital argument about who is right. Arguments can often be shortened if you can give up the need to be right – every time.
“Not only do I love my son’s mother, I exalt her as a queen.” (Rosario Slack) Do your children hear how much you esteem your spouse? This works for both husbands and wives.
(Reader’s Tip) The best advice I was given at our wedding was: Your children will learn how to love not by the love you show them but by the love you show each other.
“I wish to speak of the love which God lavishes upon us and which we in turn must share with others.” (Pope Benedict XVI, On Christian Love) Pick a person today to lavish love on who may not appear to deserve it.
Don’t complain about anyone or anything today, even if it’s legitimate. A non-complaining/whining spouse is nicer to be around. Maybe you can hold off complaining for two days…
The parable of the generous landowner (Mt 20:1-16) reminds us that life doesn’t always seem fair. Marriage is not always “50/50.” Striving to give your all to your beloved (100%) is better than measuring tit for tat.
(Reader’s Tip) 50% of a marriage is finding the right person. The other 50% is being the right person.
“He is near who upholds my right…” (Isaiah 50:7-8) When was the last time you came to the defense of your beloved? It’s nice to know you have each other’s back.
Just as our public persona does not always reflect our true self, spouses are privy to the hidden truth/weaknesses of each other. What do you know about your beloved that perhaps no one else does? Honor this privileged information.
Emily Macke discusses a study done by the National Marriage Project that links premarital sex, cohabitation and the size of one’s wedding ceremony to the quality of one’s marriage.
Tim and Donna reflect on moments where they witnessed true beauty amidst our fallen world and suggest that we all cultivate a heart of thanksgiving.
“Elijah went a day’s journey into the desert.” (1 Kings 19:4) What has been a low or dry point in your relationship with your beloved? How did you get out of it? If you’re still in a desert, ask for help – from your spouse, God, or a trusted counselor.
In his homily at a Nuptial Mass, Pope Francis encouraged couples to allow the love of Christ to sustain them on their journey as spouses.
(Reader’s Tip) Are your grown children starting to think about marriage? Pray that God will lead them to the right person. Encourage them to pray, too.
“Come to me, all you who labor and are overburdened, and I will give you rest.” (Mt 11:28) You may not need this scripture right now, but you’ll need it sometime. Hang on to these words of comfort when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Be Jesus’ comfort to your beloved.