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Temper Taming Tip #3: A child’s disobedience can trigger rage from a parent. Try pre-empting your anger with a plan. Inform your child (ideally after discussion) of what consequence will follow disobedience. Then don’t yell, just calmly enforce the plan.
Temper Taming Tip #2: Noise can lower your resistance to anger. If whining, TV, roughhousing, or crowds are on your nerves, lower the decibel level. Call for a “Quiet Time Out.” For example, turn off the TV, have kids go outside (or to separate rooms). Talk softly yourself.
“Jesus answered and said to them, ‘Stop murmuring among yourselves.’” (Jn 6:43) Do not gossip with your spouse or about your spouse. In doing so you are sinning as well as leading others into sin. Speak the truth with joy and kindness.
Temper Taming Tip #1: Check your own temperature first. Maybe you’re tired after a long day or feel stressed or worried. Try strengthening your resistance. Taking a short nap helps some. Others may listen to quiet music, take a bath or a walk. Experiment.
Megan muses about events surrounding her recent marriage, particularly focusing on the awe and joy she felt when she realized that she and Juan are now a “new tiny little family.”
On August 1, 2015, Pope Francis sent a message to the Knights of Columbus for their 133rd Supreme Convention, thanking them for their defense of marriage and family life.
Treasure each moment with your beloved spouse. We know neither the day nor the hour when our loved one will be taken from us (tip sent by a recent widow).
On August 5, 2015, Pope Francis spoke about lovingly ministering to divorced and remarried Catholic and their families as the Good Shepherd would.
“Not everyone is going to be a friend, but no one needs to be an enemy.” (Susan Vogt) How do you, your spouse, and your children deal with people you don’t like? Avoid them? Pray for them? Try to understand them? Gossip about them? Confront them? Fight? Talk about it.
One version of the marriage vows states, “to have and to hold from this day forward.” Pay attention to that little word, “hold,” today. When times are tough or emotions raw, sometimes firmly and lovingly holding each other is the best comfort.
St. John Vianney is the patron saint of parish priests. Does your family have a priest friend or two? Invite him over, celebrate his priesthood, and pray for him.
Self-deprecation can be disarming. Tell a silly story about yourself from your youth. If you have children, they may be relieved that you made mistakes, too. Teens often appreciate the role reversal. It might even generate an evening of reminiscing.
“Jesus said to them, ‘I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me will never hunger, and whoever believes in me will never thirst.’” (Jn 6:35) If you and your family have hit hard financial times, do not despair. God will provide. Trust in Him to care for your family.
In Men, Women, and the Mystery of Love, Edward Sri tackles Karol Wotyła’s Love and Responsibility, summarizing the text about human sexuality and love in accessible language and offering his own practical insights.
Don’t “trash talk” your husband – even among your girlfriends. Don’t make fun of your wife – even when out with the guys. It may be tempting and just lighthearted banter, but as Stephen Covey says, “Be loyal to those not present.”
Josh discusses how he encouraged his teenage son to be active in advocating for justice. Both publicly protested the actions of Planned Parenthood after the release of undercover videos that Josh calls the “Selma” of the anti-abortion movement.
Magic Marriage words: “Honey, you were right.” “Let’s try it your way.” “What’s your opinion?”
“A Canaanite woman … called out, “Have pity on me, Lord! … My daughter is tormented by a demon.” (Mt 15:22) Jesus healed the daughter. Sometimes it is our intense love for our children that drives us to seek God. Let a child be a vehicle of grace for you today.
Procrastination. The Christian Family Movement suggests: If not now, when? If not me, who? If not here, where? Are you putting something off until the kids are older, the house paid for, your teeth flossed? Relationships don’t always wait for some day, one day.
Tim reflects on the role of married couples to witness to the virtue of hope in the midst of a culture that has the power to discourage.
Do you talk too much? As necessary as communication within the family is, sometimes spouses and children can tune you out if you tend to be long winded. This is not something you can self-diagnose. Ask your honey or kids for help, and avoid TMI (Too Much Information).
“Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes!” (Jack Handey) To curb the urge to criticize your beloved, you may need a little distance and perspective, but make sure to come back.
“Gather the fragments left over, so that nothing will be wasted.” (John 6:12) Our society often promotes wasteful habits. Be grateful for all that God has blessed you with and share what your family has with others.
Even if you’re newly married, try imagining what it will be like to grow old together. As Robbie Hart sings in the “The Wedding Singer,” I’ll “carry you around when your arthritis is bad…get your medicine when your tummy aches…even let ya hold the remote control.”
Although it’s risky to assume your spouse can read your mind, a perceptive spouse can pick up negative feelings and attitudes through vibes and non-verbals. If you hold a negative thought toward your spouse (nag, selfish, jerk…), try changing your mind; the feelings may follow.