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Three Golden Guidelines

When Joshua and Stacey speak about “good community” or “good marriage” they try to convey that good community (marriage) comes down to good communication. Here they share three golden rules, or guidelines, for good communication.

A New, Amazing Phase in Family Life

The Noems now have an in-house babysitter! Josh reflects on preparing the children to take on roles of increased leadership and responsibility.

Home Sweet Noem

Last week, we traveled a day and a half to South Dakota to join a Noem family reunion. It was everything that an MTV spring break special is not: a weekend packed full of sweet rolls, baseball, and thoughtful conversation marked by easy silence and friendly nods.


Diagnosed with a brain tumor, Stacey’s mother is facing surgery. Stacey shares several observations from that difficult day.

Brain Tumor

Stacey’s Mom has been diagnosed with a brain tumor. In Part 1 of a two-part blog entry, Stacey recounts her Mom’s reaction–and her own–to the scary news.


Family vacation season is here! Josh writes: “I am really enjoying the quiet pace of this vacation, which has been about sleeping in, resting, and playing. It has led to great connections with the kids, for example, because of the meaningful time we can spend together.”

Brotherly and Sisterly Love

Stacey writes that Oscar and his younger brother Simon have “a veritable brotherly love fest 24-7.” Unfortunately, little Lucy often gets left out. Stacey reflects on how to expand her children’s understanding of generous love.

Hobbies–Fantasy or Necessity?

This summer, Josh and Stacey are learning how a hobby can enrich their lives. Devoting time and energy to an activity that’s “just for fun” has brought a new balance to their lives.


Stacey takes note of the “busyness” of our lives, a phenomenon that seems to track with technological advances. She’s looking forward to the summer and the opportunity for some “unplugged” time with the children.

Comings and Goings

May has been a busy month for Josh and Stacey, with end-of-school activities and numerous house guests. Josh shares a spiritual reflection on the rhythm of coming and going.

It’s Written Into Us

“There is a space in the basement [that]…had come to accumulate a number of odds and ends that we didn’t feel like dealing with when we first moved, and then items that we just didn’t feel like dealing with at all. Yesterday, the time came to open it all up and pare down.” The cleaning process yields an important insight.

Us, Together

“For our 15th wedding anniversary, my wife took me mushroom hunting, and it was every bit as glamorous as you might imagine.” Fortunately, there was also a beautiful bed-and-breakfast and time away from the daily routine.

15th Anniversary

Will you celebrate your anniversary soon? Or perhaps you want to give your marriage a little tune-up. Stacey shares some thought-provoking questions to help you reflect on your relationship.

As Good As It Gets

Sometimes, TV couples can teach us as much about marriage as real life. Josh writes about Jim and Pam on The Office and speculates on what it will take to turn their marriage around.

The Fruit Is Ripening

Teaching children to behave at Mass is just the start, writes Stacey. The new challenge, she says, is “focusing in on what is being read and spoken and making some connections with it.”

Fear Itself

Fear for their children’s safety hits Josh and Stacey in a personal way. How can parents take reasonable precautions but not live in fear?

Finding Community

Stacey writes: “Joshua and I find that those relationships that are most dear, most life-giving and most enduring are with peers who are faithful and who push us to grow.” She explains in her latest blog post.

Basketball and Family: The Little Things

Josh’s love of basketball leads him to appreciate the little things that bring success. Reflecting on these well-executed details, he got to thinking about the little things that make for a happy marriage and family life. He offers a list to ponder.

Family Life and the Good News

Josh reflects on evangelizing one’s children. He says, “In my evangelizing efforts, I find that often I am the one being evangelized. To communicate love to our children, I have to first be transformed by love.”

“And By ‘Important’ You Mean…”

It’s a common marital frustration: Your spouse hasn’t been paying attention to what you said and a while later asks you to repeat the same information. Stacey explains how spouses can process information in different ways.

Red Carpet Marriage

Josh reflects on the hit movie Les Miserables and its great insight into God’s unconditional love. Love, says Josh, “is something that only grows the more we give it away. I have found this to be utterly true in marriage and family life.”

Only As Happy As…

Stacey reflects that one child’s unhappiness can infect the entire family. But she has found an interesting counter-dynamic at work in her family.

Grasped by God, Held by Family

Assuming the role of godfather to his brand new nephew, Josh reflects: “It is a great sign that the Church welcomes people in baptism, especially when they are at their most vulnerable. It is a declaration that none of us can get by on our own—that we all need to be held by family.”

A Valentine to Pope Benedict XVI

Like most everyone else, Stacey was stunned by the news of Pope Benedict XVI’s resignation. She offers her appreciation for this beloved pastor and wise teacher.

She’s Got My Back

Josh has been extra busy lately, and it’s been hard to keep connected to Stacey. But her little acts of caring and support show that she has his back.

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