September 17, 2018
What’s your spouse’s favorite flower or snack? Surprise her/him with it.
“Have no anxiety at all…if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” (Phil 4:6-8) What do you feel anxious about today? Sharing it can lessen its power. Praying helps, too!
September 16, 2018
“You are thinking not as God does, but as human beings do.” (Mk 8:33) We are not always capable of understanding the way in which God works. But we must always trust and remain faithful to Him, despite our lack of understanding. He will not lead us astray.
September 15, 2018
Today is the feast of Our Lady of Sorrows. Mary knew sadness, loss, and hardship. Ask her for help today to bear your trials bravely.
September 14, 2018
Lift high the Cross! Do you have a crucifix in a prominent place in your home? Seeing Jesus’ sacrifice is a great reminder of the love spouses are called to every day.
September 13, 2018
Christ died for us. Spouses give their lives daily for each other, and parents for their children. Your sacrifices are worthwhile!
September 12, 2018
A Marian Marriage Tip from Pope Francis “May [Mary] make us more aware that in having children parents are acting as God’s assistants. It is a mission that is truly sublime, which makes each family a shrine of life, and each child’s birth awakens joy, wonder and gratitude.”
September 11, 2018
Does your spouse need to hear words of love or apology from you? Don’t put it off – do it today.
September 10, 2018
Over the years spouses learn little tricks to make life together work more smoothly. Are there any adjustments you’ve decided to make to accommodate your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, like timing, temperature, eating, or sleeping preferences?
September 9, 2018
“He has done all things well. He makes the deaf hear and [the] mute speak.” (Mk 7:37) Christ works great wonders every day. Share with your spouse the wonders that Christ has worked for you today.
September 8, 2018
Happy birthday, Mary! Honor Our Lady in your home today: pray the Rosary together, sing a Marian hymn, or read a book together about Mary.
September 7, 2018
What’s your shopping personality? – In and out as quickly as possible; shopping as recreation; never met a bargain I didn’t like; a research project? If you have different shopping styles, how do you reconcile your differences?
September 6, 2018
If one of you is sad, sick, or depressed, how can you tell? What do you usually do to comfort each other? Does talking about it help? Or would you rather have time alone? What does your spouse want you to do? Ask.
September 5, 2018
Unemployment can put stress on a marriage – and it’s not just about the money. Questions arise like: what value am I to my family or our society? If your spouse is job hunting or underemployed be gentle and be present for him/her. Pray for those who need work.
September 4, 2018
How do you feel about parties? Some people love to host them while others prefer going to them. Still others would rather stay home and cocoon. If you don’t have the same socializing style, what compromises have you worked out?
September 3, 2018
On this Labor Day, make time to truly rest from your work, even housework, and spend some time doing something fun with your spouse.
September 2, 2018
“This people honors me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me; In vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrines human precepts.” (Mk 7:6-7) Preach the Gospel, but also live the Gospel. Your children need to see both sides in order to understand.
August 31, 2018
Want to pray more, but not sure how? Try taping a list of people you want to pray for to the bathroom mirror, or a place you will see it every day. Make sure your spouse is #1.
August 30, 2018
“We must have places where children can have a whole group of adults they can trust.” (Margaret Mead) Does your family have such a community? If you don’t have children yourselves, can you be that supportive community for your neighborhood?
August 29, 2018
St. John the Baptist was a martyr for marriage (see Matt 14:3-12). May we have the courage to defend – and live – the true meaning of marriage!
August 28, 2018
Suggested prayer for your family today: “My God, let me know and love you, so that I may find my happiness.” (attributed to St. Augustine)
August 27, 2018
Mothers with challenging children, don’t lose hope! Ask St. Monica for help. She prayed and wept for years over her son, St. Augustine.
August 26, 2018
“Then many of his disciples who were listening said, “This saying is hard; who can accept it?” (John 6:60) Living out the Gospel is not always easy, but with God’s grace it is possible.
August 25, 2018
Consider living beneath your means. Many people in the world don’t have a choice. Even it you are still collecting necessities for your household, is there one thing that you can give away this week? You’ll be richer for it.
August 24, 2018
“You carry out the mission of the church of the home in ordinary ways when…you pray together…God answers all prayers, but sometimes in surprising ways.” (Follow the Way of Love, USCCB) Looking back on the past year, can you identify a prayer that has been answered?
August 23, 2018
Is life overwhelming right now? Take a deep breath, and remind yourself of your blessings, especially your faith and your marriage. This too shall pass!
August 22, 2018
The “Salve Regina” hymn – which honors Mary as Queen – is a beautiful prayer for the family to pray together. Even in the “valley of tears,” God is with us.
August 21, 2018
“For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” (Mt 18:7) Did you gather in Jesus’ name today? Then believe that Jesus is with you in your marriage.
August 20, 2018
How free are you and your family? Can you enjoy each other’s company without spending money? Can you have fun without depending on electricity? Explore free recreation next weekend. Sing and dance – or at least walk and talk.
August 19, 2018
“Amen, amen, I say to you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink his blood, you do not have life within you.” (Jn 5:53) Teach your children the importance of the Eucharist. Celebrate their first Holy Communion and ensure that your family is always prepared to receive the Eucharist at Mass.
August 18, 2018
“I will give you the keys to the kingdom of heaven.” (Mt 16: 18) In marriage we hold the keys to each other’s heart. Spouses should also know each other’s Internet passwords lest one be tempted to lock out the other from personal conversations.
August 17, 2018
When asked, “If you could come back as anyone after you die, who would it be?” Winston Churchill thought for a second, turned to his wife, and said, “Mrs. Churchill’s second husband.” Make a tribute to your spouse today.
August 16, 2018
Treasure each moment with your spouse. We know neither the day nor the hour when our loved one will be taken from us (tip sent by a recent widow).
August 15, 2018
Mary’s “Yes” of the Annunciation was the vehicle for God’s entry into human history. Her Assumption brought her closer to God, and thus closer to all of us. Ask her for help today.
August 14, 2018
“Not everyone is going to be a friend, but no one needs to be an enemy.” (Susan Vogt) How do you, your spouse, and your children deal with people you don’t like? Avoid them? Pray for them? Try to understand them? Gossip about them? Confront them? Fight? Talk about it.
August 13, 2018
One version of the marriage vows states, “to have and to hold from this day forward.” Pay attention to that little word, “hold,” today. When times are tough or emotions raw, sometimes firmly and lovingly holding each other is the best comfort.
August 12, 2018
“Jesus answered and said to them, ‘Stop murmuring among yourselves.’” (Jn 6:43) Do not gossip with your spouse or about your spouse. In doing so you are sinning as well as leading others into sin. Speak the truth with joy and kindness.
August 11, 2018
Self-deprecation can be disarming. Tell a silly story about yourself from your youth. If you have children, they may be relieved that you made mistakes, too. Teens often appreciate the role reversal. It might even generate an evening of reminiscing.
August 10, 2018
Don’t “trash talk” your husband – even among your girlfriends. Don’t make fun of your wife – even when out with the guys. It may be tempting and just lighthearted banter, but as Stephen Covey says, “Be loyal to those not present.”
August 9, 2018
Magic Marriage words: “Honey, you were right.” “Let’s try it your way.” “What’s your opinion?”
August 8, 2018
“A Canaanite woman … called out, “Have pity on me, Lord! … My daughter is tormented by a demon.” (Mt 15:22) Jesus healed the daughter. Sometimes it is our intense love for our children that drives us to seek God. Let a child be a vehicle of grace for you today.
August 7, 2018
“Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you’re a mile away and you have their shoes!” (Jack Handey) To curb the urge to criticize your spouse, you may need a little distance and perspective, but make sure to come back.
August 6, 2018
“From the cloud came a voice, ‘This is my beloved Son. Listen to him.’” Mk 9:7 On this feast of the Transfiguration, spend some time with your spouse reflecting on the voice of God. Are you listening to Him when you make big and small decisions in your marriage?
August 5, 2018
“Jesus said to them, ‘I am the bread of life; whoever comes to me will never hunger, and whoever believes in me will never thirst.’” (Jn 6:35) If you and your family have hit hard financial times, do not despair. God will provide. Trust in Him to care for your family.
August 4, 2018
St. John Vianney is the patron saint of parish priests. Does your family have a priest friend or two? Invite him over, celebrate his priesthood, and pray for him.
August 3, 2018
Although it’s risky to assume your spouse can read your mind, a perceptive spouse can pick up negative feelings and attitudes through vibes and non-verbals. If you hold a negative thought toward your spouse (nag, selfish, jerk…), try changing your mind; the feelings may follow.
August 2, 2018
Temper Taming Tip #3: A child’s disobedience can trigger rage from a parent. Try pre-empting your anger with a plan. Inform your child (ideally after discussion) of what consequence will follow disobedience. Then don’t yell, just calmly enforce the plan.