Posts Tagged ‘communication’
A lack of common values can be a deal-breaker in a marriage. How close are you and your spouse, or fiance(e), on basic marriage values? Try this short exercise.
What contributes to marital success? The authors find five keys to intimacy: communication, couple closeness, couple flexibility, personality compatibility and conflict resolution. The book explains each one, includes exercises that couples can do together, and offers a free “Couple Checkup” to purchasers.
Even in the best marriages, conflicts erupt. Don’t let an argument, whether it’s big or small, damage your relationship. Keep in mind these tips to ensure a “fair fight.”
There is little disagreement that effective communication between a wife and husband contributes to marital happiness. What makes for effective communication in a marriage?
(From “Thriving Marriages” by John Yzaguirre, Ph.D., and Claire Frazier-Yzaguirre, M.Div., M.F.T, New City Press, 2004. http://www.thrivingfamilies.com/) It’s easy to fall into the trap of taking each other for granted or just putting up with each other. One husband described this bluntly: “When I get home my dog is the only one who seems excited to [...]
Meet Sara and Justin, an engaged couple preparing for their Catholic wedding in June. Over the next few months they’ll blog about how they met, how they discerned God’s call to marriage, and how they’re getting ready not just for their big day, but the rest of their married lives. We invite you to share their excitement and leave a comment or two.
Most marital conflict results from poor communication skills. The author explains what can go wrong and, more important, what couples can do to avoid painful arguments.
Money can’t buy everything. Sometimes, what your spouse really wants is a compliment, an offer of assistance or an unexpected “thinking of you” e-mail. Here are some Valentine’s Day gifts that are priceless.
We usually assume that the closer a couple is, the better their communication. A new study finds that’s not necessarily the case. Read why closeness can sometimes hinder a couple’s ability to communicate.
Tough times means that couples need to pool their collective energy in order to solve their problems. Fccusing especially on financial woes, the authors say that teamwork is essential so that couples can survive and even learn from their difficulties.
The holiday season is back. With family gatherings, high expectations and the pressure to make everyone happy, December can be the most stressful month of the year. How can couples keep their cool and make sure their marriage stays strong and that children see them at their best?
This book is for anyone who wants to improve the dynamics of a relationship. It explains the effects of listening, the consequences of not listening, and why people don’t listen. It offers specific techniques to overcome personal needs and understand another point of view.
A little pamphlet offers big help for troubled marriages. A recent News Note, published by The Christophers, offers seven principles for couples to practice in the face of tough times. The principles help couples to communicate well, fight fair, and learn to forgive.
Readers assume the guise of eavesdroppers in each chapter of this unique book, listening in on two conversations between a wife and husband attempting to discuss a troublesome issue in their marriage. What makes this book different is its invitation to readers to assess first the disadvantages and then the advantages of two quite different ways of discussing the same issue.
Husbands and wives handle conflict better if they tend to speak of “we,” “our” and “us,” rather than “me,” “I” or “you,” researchers have found. They analyzed 15-minute conversations focused on points of conflict between 154 middle-age and older couples.
Couples ought to “learn to talk about money early and often,” Jeff Opdyke wrote in a column for Valentine’s Day 2010 in The Wall Street Journal. But it is rare that money is the “real culprit” for a couple, Opdyke suggested. Instead, a “lack of communication” tends to be the issue.
You’ve probably heard that good communication makes for a good marriage. How to negotiate conflict, how to be an effective listener, how to share openly – these are all topics frequently covered in magazines, on web sites and in programs that prepare couples for marriage. You never know what issues will come up in your [...]
Conflict resolution is really a subset of communication, but for most couples, communication does not become problematic until there is a disagreement. Even though conflict may be rooted in poor listening skills, lack of affirmation, or clumsy expression of feelings, it deserves special attention because this is where couples most hurt. Some couples resolve conflicts [...]
From On the Family: [Families need] a continuous, permanent conversion.
“Respect is the number one ingredient in a healthy relationship. If you respect your partner, you will set a positive foundation for all of your communication,” Mary Carty writes in PMAT: The Perfect Marriage Aptitude Test.
“The key to developing a successful marriage” is found in “personal change and growth,” John Farrelly says in “The Good Marriage Guide.” The author is director of counseling for ACCORD, the nationwide marriage care service of the Catholic Church in Ireland.
This is a book for and about husbands, though I’m certain many wives would enjoy it too. The authors of The Husband Handbook are determined to speak about marriage and its challenges in a manner designed to appeal to many men.
While listening takes as much skill as talking and it’s just as big a part of communicating, it’s something most of us have not been well schooled to do. We were taught something about trying to make ourselves understood when communicating, but nothing about opening ourselves to receiving messages from others with as little judgment as possible.
A list of reasons why communication is important.
We have only been married a short time, and things are going pretty well between us, but something that concerns me is that we don’t really solve problems. One of us raises an issue, we talk about it a little, and then we let it drop. What worries me is that eventually, when we have a real problem we can’t avoid, we won’t know how to deal with it. Are there any strategies for a couple like us to use?