Posts Tagged ‘communication’
A little pamphlet offers big help for troubled marriages. A recent News Note, published by The Christophers, offers seven principles for couples to practice in the face of tough times. The principles help couples to communicate well, fight fair, and learn to forgive.
Readers assume the guise of eavesdroppers in each chapter of this unique book, listening in on two conversations between a wife and husband attempting to discuss a troublesome issue in their marriage. What makes this book different is its invitation to readers to assess first the disadvantages and then the advantages of two quite different ways of discussing the same issue.
Husbands and wives handle conflict better if they tend to speak of “we,” “our” and “us,” rather than “me,” “I” or “you,” researchers have found. They analyzed 15-minute conversations focused on points of conflict between 154 middle-age and older couples.
Couples ought to “learn to talk about money early and often,” Jeff Opdyke wrote in a column for Valentine’s Day 2010 in The Wall Street Journal. But it is rare that money is the “real culprit” for a couple, Opdyke suggested. Instead, a “lack of communication” tends to be the issue.
You’ve probably heard that good communication makes for a good marriage. How to negotiate conflict, how to be an effective listener, how to share openly – these are all topics frequently covered in magazines, on web sites and in programs that prepare couples for marriage. You never know what issues will come up in your […]
Conflict resolution is really a subset of communication, but for most couples, communication does not become problematic until there is a disagreement. Even though conflict may be rooted in poor listening skills, lack of affirmation, or clumsy expression of feelings, it deserves special attention because this is where couples most hurt. Some couples resolve conflicts […]
From On the Family: [Families need] a continuous, permanent conversion.
“Respect is the number one ingredient in a healthy relationship. If you respect your partner, you will set a positive foundation for all of your communication,” Mary Carty writes in PMAT: The Perfect Marriage Aptitude Test.
“The key to developing a successful marriage” is found in “personal change and growth,” John Farrelly says in “The Good Marriage Guide.” The author is director of counseling for ACCORD, the nationwide marriage care service of the Catholic Church in Ireland.
This is a book for and about husbands, though I’m certain many wives would enjoy it too. The authors of The Husband Handbook are determined to speak about marriage and its challenges in a manner designed to appeal to many men.
While listening takes as much skill as talking and it’s just as big a part of communicating, it’s something most of us have not been well schooled to do. We were taught something about trying to make ourselves understood when communicating, but nothing about opening ourselves to receiving messages from others with as little judgment as possible.
A list of reasons why communication is important.
We have only been married a short time, and things are going pretty well between us, but something that concerns me is that we don’t really solve problems. One of us raises an issue, we talk about it a little, and then we let it drop. What worries me is that eventually, when we have a real problem we can’t avoid, we won’t know how to deal with it. Are there any strategies for a couple like us to use?
When you’ve had a falling out or feel distance between you, how do you come back together and reconcile? The following might help.
They say that when a man marries a woman, he thinks, “She’s the one I’ve been waiting for. She’ll never change.” – and she always does. And a woman looks at her man, and thinks, “He just needs a little work; after we’re married, I’ll help him change” – and he never does.
Having a successful marriage means learning some skills that differ from the skills you need for most other pieces of life. You are in the business of building, maintaining, and protecting a relationship.
His plane was just taking off for a week long meeting in San Francisco when my husband’s secretary called me. She wanted to know who our family photographer was so that she could get a professional photo of my husband. A legal journal would be covering the news about his appointment as president of a national organization. I was stunned. What presidency, I asked?
I’ll never forget the look on my Dad’s face the first time he saw my husband, Joe, raise his fist at me.
Marriage is not a test that you either pass or fail. It’s an ongoing process of learning about each other and how to accommodate differences so that both of you can feel satisfied and grow in love for each other. Marriage is also not a competition in which one person wins at the expense of […]
Communication What is the one indispensable ingredient for making marriages work? Family life educators usually answer: communication. This is good news, because effective communication can be learned. Skills such as active listening, using “I” statements, paying attention to my feelings and those of my spouse, and learning tips for “fighting fair” make marriage easier. Some […]
As a dating or engaged couple, conversation probably comes easily. The two of you enjoy talking about just anything. Just about anything that is, except ugly disagreements. It doesn’t change much in marriage except there are more things to disagree about. You can’t run away from prickly conversations – for long. If anything, marriage accentuates […]
Wherever you may be—dating, engaged, newlywed, in a mature marriage, or empty nesters—your relationship can benefit from a little expert advice. It’s too big a puzzle to put together from scratch. Don’t go it alone. We’re here to help make married life easier, more meaningful and enjoyable. We’re here to help make married life easier, […]
World meeting of families held in Mexico City; Marriage initiative in the Tucson Diocese: Listening sessions; The Marriage Checkup: Catching problems early; Marital happiness after a spouse develops a physical disability; Pope Benedict XVI on the new communications media at home.