Posts Tagged ‘conflict’
The way husbands treat their wives affects their emotional well-being. Undoubtedly no one will be surprised to hear that! But recent research by University of Missouri researcher Christine Proulx, an assistant professor of human development and family studies, confirms that symptoms of depression may increase for women when their husbands act in self-centered, angry and […]
From Follow the Way of Love: Love brought you to life as a family. Love sustains you in good and bad times.
Healing a marriage when there has been infidelity takes teamwork. As a marriage therapist for the past thirty years, I’ve met with countless clients who thought that this would be the end of their marriage. “Ben” and “Kathy” came in to see me after Kathy found out that Ben had been involved with another woman. […]
The Situation John is outgoing and can talk easily to almost anyone. Sarah is more reserved and prefers socializing in small groups. She finds herself hurt and uncomfortable when John makes the rounds at parties, leaving her to fend for herself. He can’t understand why she prefers the wallflower approach. Darrell is practical and pays […]
The Situation It’s not just the ‘uns’ that irritated Heidi: the unmade bed, the un-emptied dishwasher, the un-folded laundry. It was the fact that Sam had been home all day and was asleep when she returned from her extra weekend shift at the hospital. She was tired and resentful and felt that he hadn’t done […]
Many couples today are older, more mature, and have more life experience than couples who married a generation or two ago. Does that mean they enter marriage without the rose-colored glasses that blinds them to their spouse’s shadow side? Maybe not. Human nature doesn’t change much from generation to generation. Most couples still enter marriage […]
You’ve probably heard that good communication makes for a good marriage. How to negotiate conflict, how to be an effective listener, how to share openly – these are all topics frequently covered in magazines, on web sites and in programs that prepare couples for marriage. You never know what issues will come up in your […]
Conflict resolution is really a subset of communication, but for most couples, communication does not become problematic until there is a disagreement. Even though conflict may be rooted in poor listening skills, lack of affirmation, or clumsy expression of feelings, it deserves special attention because this is where couples most hurt. Some couples resolve conflicts […]
Communication usually comes easily and smoothly to most engaged couples. They can talk to each other about just anything. It may even be hard to understand how or why married couples fight. You may say to yourselves, “We’ll never be like that.” And maybe you won’t. On the other hand, you may have already had […]
With a string of degrees and attributions after their combined names, these authors can be expected to offer solid information and practical advice gleaned from their therapy practice with couples. In God Knows Marriage Isn’t Always Easy they also offer wisdom gained from their own 20-year marriage, captivating stories about other couples and inspiring quotations from a wide variety of sources.
His rules for handling conflict in marriage rank among Tony Garascia’s most valuable “lessons” in “The Honeymoon Habit.” One rule states, “Treat the other with respect by the use of eye contact, calm voice tone, nonthreatening body posture and by respectful speech.”
“Respect is the number one ingredient in a healthy relationship. If you respect your partner, you will set a positive foundation for all of your communication,” Mary Carty writes in PMAT: The Perfect Marriage Aptitude Test.
Do you and your spouse relate to God differently? Are you avoiding spiritual growth out of fear that it might damage your marriage? Has a potent religious experience driven a wedge between you and your spouse? Does God call a husband or wife to move forward while leaving his or her partner behind?
What would the world’s comedians do without jokes about in-laws? Cultural images of meddling mothers-in-law, good-for-nothing sons-in-law and intrusive siblings-in-law are so pervasive that they may cloud awareness that our in-laws are important to us–and we to them.
Opening to the table of contents reveals that Take Back Your Marriage has no chapters on communication skills or conflict resolution and none devoted to finances or sex. Instead William Doherty, a practicing therapist, professor and director of the University of Minnesota’s Marriage and Family Therapy Program, focuses on overarching issues: commitment, building an intentional marriage and community connectivity.
Are husbands and wives doomed to frustration if one spouse wants to make love more frequently than the other? As with most things in marriage, it’s a matter of loving effort and compromise.
Opposites may attract but how on earth can we get along? Quite well if we understand the value in personality differences.
Most people have been raised to expect that certain jobs are done primarily by one sex or the other. Despite these stereotypes job assignments aren’t written in stone. Many couples shift their roles and responsibilities several times throughout the years of their marriage. Is it time for some job reclassification in your marriage?
Surveys identify money as one of the top issues over which couples have conflicts. Therefore, developing a couple-style of managing money is crucial to the health of a marriage. If a couple can’t work through their money issues together, the relationship will face problems of distrust, resentment and insecurity.
The economic downturn is putting stress on marriages at every income level. Whether it’s a job eliminated in an automobile plant or stock losses in the retirement portfolio, unwelcome lifestyle changes have become necessary for many people. Major economic worries affect both individual well-being and the couple relationship.
All marriages have their stormy seasons and years. The blissful days of early marriage succumb at some point to disillusionment. Given the inevitable bad weather in marriage, how can couples survive disillusionment and create a marriage that is still satisfying on their golden anniversary?
Julie and Jason recently welcomed a new daughter into their life. Julie is finding it hard to imagine leaving when her three month maternity leave is up. But Jason knows their mortgage is based on both of them working full time.
A list of reasons why communication is important.
We have only been married a short time, and things are going pretty well between us, but something that concerns me is that we don’t really solve problems. One of us raises an issue, we talk about it a little, and then we let it drop. What worries me is that eventually, when we have a real problem we can’t avoid, we won’t know how to deal with it. Are there any strategies for a couple like us to use?
When you’ve had a falling out or feel distance between you, how do you come back together and reconcile? The following might help.