Posts Tagged ‘disillusionment’
The Dilemma After 16 years of marriage Bill and Betty find themselves in the marital doldrums. Although neither would say it openly, each feels their marriage has become lackluster and is in a rut. “Boring” was how Bill explained it to his closest friend. Although Bill and Betty have two children who keep them busy, [...]
When it is difficult to love, to get beyond hurt and resentment, couples are invited to be like Jesus, to choose to love, to trust and to reach out again, Archbishop Albert LeGatt of St. Boniface, Manitoba, told participants in the March 19-20 national marriage congress in Canada hosted by the Diocese of Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. [...]
Social scientists have observed that marriages typically move through a series of at least four stages. Each stage presents unique learning opportunities and blessings, along with challenges and obstacles.
Many couples today are older, more mature, and have more life experience than couples who married a generation or two ago. Does that mean they enter marriage without the rose-colored glasses that blinds them to their spouse’s shadow side? Maybe not. Human nature doesn’t change much from generation to generation. Most couples still enter marriage [...]
“Think and talk about commitment in positive terms,” Mark O’Connell advises couples in The Marriage Benefit. Nowadays, he says, “commitment can legitimately be considered a radical, even ‘cool’ choice, not a conventional one.”
“Every marriage is still in process,” says Gary Chapman. In The Four Seasons of Marriage, he describes how marriages commonly move from one season to another – from summer to fall or perhaps from winter to spring. He differs from some writers, however, in holding that each season may repeat itself numerous times over the long course of a marriage.
Are husbands and wives doomed to frustration if one spouse wants to make love more frequently than the other? As with most things in marriage, it’s a matter of loving effort and compromise.
All marriages have their stormy seasons and years. The blissful days of early marriage succumb at some point to disillusionment. Given the inevitable bad weather in marriage, how can couples survive disillusionment and create a marriage that is still satisfying on their golden anniversary?
After almost 10 years of marriage, my husband decided to quit his secure government job and start his own business. I was scared. We had two children, ages 2 and 6, and could not maintain our simple lifestyle solely on my salary. Tom had no clear idea of what kind of business he wanted to start. He just wanted to be his own boss.