Posts Tagged ‘virtues’
As Thanksgiving approaches, we take time to think of the many people in our lives for whom we are grateful. How about starting with our spouse?
As summer begins, it’s good to remember that rest, relaxation, and even play can be helpful in a marriage. Play as a virtue? Of course! Whether we call it playfulness, a sense of humor, or a joyous spirit, this virtue can help a marriage over the rough spots and deepen intimacy. Here are some ideas for cultivating playfulness in your marriage.
“We do not need to retreat to a monastery, convent or mountain cabin for prayer, fasting and a traditional contemplative life in order to become increasingly virtuous, Christ-like persons,” says the author, David Sanderlin. “We can become increasingly virtuous, Christ-like persons in our own home by acting with love, wisdom and other Christian virtues in our busy marriage and family life.”
When long-married couples are asked the recipe for marital success, many identify patience as a key ingredient. It’s the indispensable virtue for living together day after day in relative peace, without constant struggles to change the other to our liking.
Pride is a mortal enemy to love, and also to lasting marital happiness. The antidote is humility–an acceptance of who and what we are.
Couples often speak of the joy of having married their best friend. What does friendship in marriage look like and how can it be nurtured?
When we come to marriage we each bring our histories – healed or broken, reflected upon or repressed – to our life together. Our vocation is to help each other become fully human. This means finding a way to share hurts, to risk allowing the other person to know us so intimately that we are willing to open up old wounds and allow God to heal them through each other. Marriage at its best creates a safe space where healing and forgiveness can take place.
Every couple has times when they are disillusioned, angry, depressed, tired, or just plain ready to give up. Why do some couples persevere and others give up trying to make things work? Read about the three things that persevering couples have in common.
Kindness is an essential virtue in a healthy and happy marriage. A recent study conducted in various cultures around the world asked people to name the trait they desired most in a mate. For both sexes, people overwhelmingly wanted their mates to be kind. What does kindness in marriage look like?
Fidelity is not easy, but it is possible with God’s help. Married life often presents trials, conflicting choices, a partner’s inattention or worse. Faithful love persists. Spouses lay down their lives for their beloved every day.
Learn more about the virtue of fidelity and what it looks like in real life.
It may not take courage to make a promise, but it can take a lot of courage to keep a promise. This is especially true for the promises we make on our wedding day.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan: Among the many blessings that God has showered upon us in Christ is the blessing of marriage.
From Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan: Love and truth never abandon [people] completely, because these are the vocation planted by God in the heart and mind of every human person (Pope Benedict XVI).
Over the past several years, as chairman of the Bishops’ Committee on Marriage and Family Life, I’ve had the privilege of listening to many couples reflect on their marriage. Repeatedly, I’ve been struck by how many speak of their sense of helping each other to heaven. They instinctively grasp St. Paul’s call to “a still [...]