Learning To Say I Do
The Pregnancy Blues
Sara: The past several days, I’ve been suffering from a case of the pregnancy blues. I feel overworked, underpaid, and underappreciated both at work and at home. It’s honestly not Justin’s fault, as he’s been more than pulling his fair share at home with yard work, housework, and other duties. In fact, Justin has truly risen to the challenges of pregnancy as I begin to have more aches and pains.
Just like in my first trimester, it seems it no longer takes much to make me cry. At breakfast this morning, Justin and I were discussing painting the living room, and he felt my suggestion of how to paint wasn’t how he wanted to do it. When he explained that and why, I started crying because I felt like he wasn’t valuing my opinion.
And, of course, there was the recent email from a colleague who I felt was chewing me out for something that honestly wasn’t my fault. After driving home, I was still so upset that I asked Justin how I should respond. When I pulled up the email, I realized I had actually managed to misunderstand everything my colleague had said!
Unfortunately, I really don’t know the solution to the pregnancy blues, unless it’s just to cry – a lot, as I have these past few days! As I mentioned last week, there’s simply a lot of changes going on for Justin and me right now, including the unknowns of a new boss for me. Sometimes, I feel like a trained monkey could do better at my job and be a better wife to Justin than I am right now. By the time I get home from work, there’s simply not much energy left to take care of the house, make dinner, or do other necessary chores. The baby’s room is getting better, but still has numerous boxes full of items that belong in other parts of the house. In addition, my “belly” has really begun to pop, so I feel “fat” and have a much more difficult time navigating the stairs and getting up off the sofa or even walking upstairs to the kitchen to get a snack. Basically, I’m finally beginning to understand why mothers talk about wanting their babies to be born – I now know it is in hopes of being more comfortable!
This weekend, I get to see my family for my brother’s college graduation. I’m hoping this will help put some things in perspective, and it will be great to see my godchild and niece who is getting so big! Basically, I think I need to cut myself (and Justin) a bit of slack, as I know my pregnancy hasn’t been easy on Justin, either. He’s done a lot to take care of me throughout these past six months, and I’m sure he’s got a lot more to do these coming months! I also need to continue to find things to be excited about, such as seeing my family and setting time with friends.
Moms, any tips for surviving the third trimester and pregnancy blues?
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