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Do you have a hard time getting your beloved to share thoughts and feelings with you? Some spouses are the quiet type who will talk when ready. Others just need you to be patient and make space for speech. Do you talk too much?
“Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me.” (Mt 25:40) Recognize Christ in your spouse and in all those that you meet. If you are struggling to serve your spouse, remember that you are serving Christ as well.
St. Cecilia is the patron saint of music. Whether you’re a virtuoso or can’t carry a tune, enjoy music today with your family (sing, listen to a favorite song, practice instruments together).
“But of that day or hour, no one knows…” (Mk 13:32) Death is not something most people like to think about, but it is inevitable and indeed we don’t know “the day or hour.” Don’t avoid talking about your deaths – even if you’re young. Do you know each other’s final wishes?
“Elijah said to [the widow] ‘Do not be afraid.’” (1 Kings 17:13) Do you have money worries? Have you ever? Do you or your spouse worry more about money? Pray for both prudence and detachment.
(Reader’s Tip) Keep Jesus’s teachings at the center of your marriage: Be the first to forgive and the last to blame, and never go to sleep angry with each other.
Married couples are called to lead each other to heaven. Show your spouse how much God loves them by doing an unexpected kindness for them today.
St. Elizabeth of Hungary, a married saint, became a young widow when her husband died of the plague after only six years of marriage. Pray today for those who have lost a spouse, and look for ways to support them.
“Well done, my good and faithful servant. Since you were faithful in small matters, I will give you great responsibilities. Come, share your master’s joy.” (Mt 25:21) God is calling us to share in his joy through the sacrament of marriage. Don’t forget to share smiles and laughter with your spouse.
Colder weather brings us indoors. Do you have indoor hobbies to share with your spouse? Puzzles, board games, crafts, etc. Recreational time together builds friendship and intimacy.
Try this today: when you’re tempted to say something curt or not-so-nice to your spouse, instead smile, pause, and find something kind to say instead.
(Reader’s Tip) Use the phrase “Praised be Jesus Christ” as the first and last words of each day to your spouse and children.
(Reader’s Tip) I show my wife how much I love and appreciate her each day by lovingly waking her, making breakfast, and starting her car on cold mornings.
St. Martin of Tours gave half his cloak to a beggar, and dreamt that night that the beggar was Christ. Together with your family, do an act of mercy for someone today, knowing that you are serving Christ.
Hoping for a baby? For some couples pregnancy comes easily but for those eagerly waiting, it can be physically and emotionally draining. Natural Family Planning can help couples identify their most fertile days and Naprotechnology can address underlying medical issues.
What role does Mass play in your home? Do you and your spouse go to Mass together? Discuss why you go to Mass and what it means to each of you.
(Reader’s Tip) Embrace the Cross. Marriage, like any vocation, is a path to holiness, with its sorrows as well as joys.
Romance: repeat what works, but not too much. Some spouses love candlelight, flowers, or chocolate. Others love massages, fancy dinners, or words of love. Once you know, do it, but remember that surprises and breaking a pattern can be delightful.
November is National Adoption Month. Are you an adoptive parent, or do you know families who have adopted? Pray today for those awaiting the gift of adoption, as well as for mothers and fathers considering an adoption plan for their child.
(Reader’s Tip) Celebrate achievements that you know are important to your spouse. Let your kids know when and why you are proud of each other, especially when it is for things that might not be important to anyone else.
“You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Mk 12:31) This presumes that you do indeed have a humble but honest self-love. Keep yourself healthy as a gift to your spouse. This includes exercising and not smoking or drinking excessively.
Parenting is a full time job but it doesn’t pay the bills. For many parents it’s difficult to decide whether or not to work outside the home. If you are not yet a parent, but hope to be, consider living on one income to make staying at home a viable choice.
“May the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.” Take time today, on All Souls’ Day, to pray for your family’s beloved dead. Reminisce about their impact in your lives.
“We are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses” (Heb 12:1). On All Saint’s Day, ask a married saint to help you live your vocation well. Suggestions: St. Gianna Molla, St. Thomas More, or St. Rita of Cascia.
Halloween is a time when adults and kids get to play and pretend. If you could be any famous couple in history, who would it be? Why?