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(Reader’s Tip) 50% of a marriage is finding the right person. The other 50% is being the right person.
“He is near who upholds my right…” (Isaiah 50:7-8) When was the last time you came to the defense of your beloved? It’s nice to know you have each other’s back.
Just as our public persona does not always reflect our true self, spouses are privy to the hidden truth/weaknesses of each other. What do you know about your beloved that perhaps no one else does? Honor this privileged information.
“Elijah went a day’s journey into the desert.” (1 Kings 19:4) What has been a low or dry point in your relationship with your beloved? How did you get out of it? If you’re still in a desert, ask for help – from your spouse, God, or a trusted counselor.
(Reader’s Tip) Are your grown children starting to think about marriage? Pray that God will lead them to the right person. Encourage them to pray, too.
“Come to me, all you who labor and are overburdened, and I will give you rest.” (Mt 11:28) You may not need this scripture right now, but you’ll need it sometime. Hang on to these words of comfort when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Be Jesus’ comfort to your beloved.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him might not perish but might have eternal life.” (Jn 3:16) God’s love is a sacrificial love. Are you willing to make sacrifices for your beloved?
“The families of migrants, especially in the case of manual workers and farm workers, should be able to find a homeland everywhere in the church.” (Familiaris Consortio) Does your family know any migrants from another country? Find one or two and invite them to dinner, and pray for these families today.
“Even if we are not called to sell all that we have, we probably are called to not buy everything that it is possible to buy.” (Susan Vogt) What do you expect to spend money on today? Some items are essential but is there one purchase that you can skip?
Our culture often thinks, “If it’s new, it’s better.” But sometimes the old and trusted is better. Over the years spouses develop a comfort with each other’s idiosyncrasies. What “crazy things” do you love about your spouse?
“Did not God choose those who are poor in the world to be rich in faith?” (James 2:5) Do you know anyone who is really poor? Look around you. What can you learn of faith from those you see?
Check yourself against these three criteria when criticizing your spouse (or anyone): Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? If not, it’s probably fault-finding or gossip. Focus on virtues more than vices.
(Reader’s Tip) You’ve got to give in (in disagreements). Both of you have to give in. Once it’s your turn and the next time it’s the other’s turn. (From a couple married 80 years)
“For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” (Mt 18:20) Did you gather in Jesus’ name today? Believe that Jesus is with you in your marriage, always.
An ache or a pain, an angst or an annoyance. What to do? Offer it up. This traditional spiritual practice of offering up our troubles as a prayer can redirect our energy from our own difficulties to the good of another. For whom can you offer up today’s problems?
Marriage often involves learning (or being told) when you are wrong. You can humbly accept this information when it is true or choose to pick a fight. Fight for your marriage. It’s better than proving you’re right.
(Reader’s Tip) My husband and I will occasionally surprise each other with coffee, candy or flowers. It’s a nice way to show we’re thinking of each other.
“Be doers of the word… Care for orphans and widows in their affliction.” (James 1:23,27) Do you know any orphans or widows in distress? If so, do something to help.
The best gift parents can give their children is a happy marriage. Nurturing your marriage will pay benefits for your child even if it costs money for a babysitter.
Do you show appreciation for the work your spouse does inside the home? Take a moment to say thank you for something he or she does on a regular basis, such as cooking, lawn care or laundry.
“Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.” (Mt 16:24) We never have to carry our crosses alone. Turn to Christ and allow your spouse to help you carry your cross as well.
(Reader’s Tip) Start and end each day by thanking God for letting this person be in your life. Just a quick smile when they walk in the room tells them you care that they are near you.
Parents, has your child disappointed you in some way? You need to hold him or her accountable, but that doesn’t mean you can’t welcome your child back with open arms. Can you think of any offense that is not forgivable? God can’t.
Technology and media are useful for connecting and inspiration but they can also rob you of precious couple time. A few seconds can easily morph into an hour. Evaluate your media use, individually and as a couple.
St. Monica prayed for years for the conversion of her son. His feast day is tomorrow: St. Augustine! Mothers and fathers, ask St. Monica to intercede for your child(ren).