Archive for ‘Daily Marriage Tip’
Are one or both of you retired? It can be a blessing and a challenge. There’s extra time but perhaps physical limitations are increasing. What do you like most about being retired? What do you like least?
“Then God delivered all these commandments.” (Exodus 20:1) Which commandment is most difficult for you? Are you too lenient or harsh on yourself? Sometimes a spouse can be a window into your soul, knowing you even better than you know yourself. Do you dare ask for his/her opinion?
Where is your church? Perhaps it’s closer than you think. A family is “the most basic way in which the Lord gathers us, forms us, and acts in the world. The early Church [called] the Christian family a domestic church or church of the home.” (Follow the Way of Love). Pray at home today.
“Be merciful, O Lord, for we have sinned.” (Ps 51:3) On this first Sunday of Lent, make plans to go to confession as a family sometime during Lent. Frequenting the Sacrament of Penance is great practice for asking forgiveness from our spouse for the times we hurt them.
Lenten resolutions don’t have to be grim and tough. What about a secret resolve to romance your spouse for Lent? Seek out fun and creative ways to show how special he/she is to you.
In time married couples work out a division of labor between them. Usually it’s based on skills, interest, and time. Is there a job you dislike? Talk about it. Then try switching for a month.
It’s natural for couples to have different strengths. This division of labor can save time. Sometimes, however, it’s fun to teach each other a personal skill – like how to sew on a button or play a musical instrument. Teach each other something new today, and be patient!
“Remember that you are dust, and to dust you shall return.” What a sobering thought after the playfulness of Mardi Gras. Take time today to thank God for your spouse, realizing that your earthly time together won’t last forever.
Mardi Gras, or “Fat Tuesday,” is about more than decadence and parades. It’s a chance to let your lighter side play. If you’re the serious type, lighten up for a day. If you’re already lighter than air, take responsibility for humoring your spouse.
Lent is just a few days away. Have you spoken yet with your spouse about ideas to grow spiritually this Lent? Set aside time to do so today, and talk about how you can encourage each other.
“Can any of you by worrying add a single moment to your life-span?” Jesus asks his disciples. (Mt 6:27) (The answer is “no.”) What do you get anxious about? Share it with your spouse. Pray together for the gift of peace.
Fighting Fair Tip: Avoid the kitchen sink. This doesn’t mean you can’t argue in the kitchen but rather, keep to the topic. Don’t bring up “everything but the kitchen sink.”
What’s your favorite religious or spiritual book other than the Bible? Why has it touched you so? Has your spouse also read it? If your favorite is not the same, maybe it’s time to read a new book.
Personality is like eye color – there’s not a right or wrong kind. It’s also not crucial that couples be the same. Often, however, arguments start when we expect our spouse to think and act just like us. If you’ve never taken a personality inventory, try the audit on this website.
“Repent, and believe in the gospel.” (Mk 1:15) Any two people who live as closely as husband and wife are bound to emotionally hurt each other at times. It may be a careless word or wanting your way. Don’t be too proud to repent. “I’m sorry” is the first step. Making amends is the next.
Married couples and priests need each other. Is there a priest in your life – your pastor, or a former teacher? – whom you could invite to dinner, or to a family event? Or make a point of remember his ordination anniversary or birthday.
Lent is approaching. Is there a bad habit that you would like to eliminate? Anything you wouldn’t want to teach your children to do? Lent and your children can give you the motivation to let go of it. Ask your spouse for help.
“Merciful and gracious is the Lord, slow to anger and abounding in kindness.” (Ps 103:8) In these words, God gives married couples a blueprint for life together! Are you slow to anger…or quick to find fault? Would your spouse say you are “abounding in kindness”? Ask the Lord for help to love your spouse as […]
Communication tip: Agree in advance that when a conversation gets heated, either spouse can call a “time out.” Take at least 20 minutes to cool down and process what was said before regrouping and continuing the discussion.
The lay movement Teams of Our Lady asks its members (married couples) to have a “sit down” once a month. Husband and wife set aside time to give each other undivided attention and share what’s on their hearts. Could this practice benefit your marriage?
Do you remember what Scriptures were read at your wedding? Look them up today and read them to each other. Do they say something different to you than they did on your wedding day?
“Your offenses; your sins I remember no more.” (Is 43:25) “Child, your sins are forgiven.” (Mk 2:5) We humans hold grudges – but that is not the way of God, the way of love. Let go of an annoyance or fault of your beloved today. Don’t bring it up again – at least for a […]
“Marriage is not merely a private institution.” (USCCB, Marriage: Love and Life in the Divine Plan) Marriage matters for many people beyond the married couple: children, neighbors, friends. Reflect today on all the lives your marriage has touched.
President’s Day can be more than a day off work, a time when government offices are closed, or stores have sales. What does it mean to lead? What does it mean to protect and to seek the common good? These are questions for both spouses and presidents.
“Go first and be reconciled with your brother, and then come and offer your gift,” Jesus says to his disciples. (Mt 5:24) Is there anyone you need to reconcile with? Perhaps your spouse? A child? A parent or parent-in-law? Pray for opportunities for healing a broken or tense relationship.